Domestic Abuse Support Worker

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Sorry I'm not sure which topic I should of posted this in.

Recently taken on by social services. They've now done a risk assessment and I am being allocated a domestic abuse support worker to help me leave the situation with my children.

Has anyone else had this? What can I expect to happen, or what can they do?

I'm also interested if anyone else has left their narcissist partner, when you have children together. I know full well he is going to hound everyone with lie after lie once we split, and as always he will make everything out to be my fault. How on earth do I stay strong enough to believe in myself, not guilt trip myself as usual into his bag of lies?

I know I need to be out of the relationship, and it's all being planned so it's safe for us to leave, and I want out for me and the children more than anything in the world right now. I just don't know what to expect that's all.

Thank you all for your support so far in my journey to freedom one day soon

Hi OP - I don’t have any advice to give but you may want to ask MNHQ to move this over to Relationships - you’ll get great advice and support there.

Good luck.

You'll be allocated an idva. An independent domestic violence advocate. The local authority can refer you onto your local dv agency. An idva is fantastic. I've had 3 idvas in 3 different local authorities, they still support me today. Your idva can help you with things like a non molestation order, housing, completing of benefits forms.. If you're high risk they can refer you onto Marac, which is a great thing.
With regards to your ex, I would apply for legal aid and get yourself a solicitor. You'll need one.

Just to add, my idva and the local authority assisted in us fleeing. I was building up to it but an incident happened which was life or death and I had to leave immediately. I had child protection and the police escort my daughter and I to safety on the day we fled. My idva was instrumental in assisting with that.