DING DING - Last orders please! (Babies, not drinks)

[WETJanuary]

Hi,

I'm heading towards my late 30's with a 15 year old dc, but my ovaries are messing with my head!

I'm assuming this is fairly standard, that you become super broody just before your fertility drops off a cliff, but it's taking up so much head space! I've been like this since 34/35, but keep trying to think logically, ignore that pull and just feel lucky that I have one gorgeous dc and will have my freedom back pretty young, but I don't know! If I didn't have my dc, I'm pretty sure I would have a baby or two now (if I could) but with such a big age gap, I don't know.

I don't want my strong desire to take over my logically brain and encourage me to make wrong decisions, just because my fertile days are numbered.

Saying that, the thought of an empty nest in my early 40's fills me with horror. I'm not ready for that at all! Ideally I would have had another 10 years ago, but life isn't that simple.

Is this ringing true for any of you?

Hopeful bump. No pun intended!

Anyone?

I guess not

I have a 14 Yr gap between my eldest and youngest. Same age roughly as you..
There's also 18 years between me and my sister.

@TooMuchSugar22, how do your dc get on? And how about you and your sister?

16 years between my brother and me. And I have a sister 2 years older. Just think of the free babysitting. My mum didnt pay for any until I moved out when DB was 8.

However! Having a baby is risky at any age but it can cause problems especially in older mums. My mum has suffered with health and I had my one and only at the same age she had her last (42) and I am also suffereing with ailments because of the pregnancy. On average, you bounce back more as a younger mum.

And to add my parents retired while DB was still living at home. 10 years later he is still there... lovely.

I had dd1 at 20 ds at 22 and dd2 at 25.

I always wanted more children but was in an unhappy relationship so got divorced at 30.

I'm met now Dh at 35 and had ds2 at 37. The largest gap was between youngest ds and oldest dd, 20 years.

It was very hard to conceive ds3 but we finally managed when I was 40. I had him just a few weeks before I was 41.

They are now nearly 13 and youngest just tuned 9. A real delight and joy, I'm so glad I had the younger ones too. They adore and are much adored by their older siblings who have now left home.

@Wagsandclaws, did it ever feel hard starting all over again?

No not at all, I suppose the difference was that I had a much more supportive Dh and Having teen/older children made it a lot easier if we wanted to pop out!

I won't lie i was a lot more tired but the boys have kept me young so to speak, they have been ( as have my other children ) an utter joy.