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How would you have reacted?

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Geom372 · 05/01/2022 08:01

A few days ago DH had taken off his t shirt and jumper together (so t shirt still inside jumper) and left it on the floor of the bedroom, I was tidying up and hung them up on a hanger and put it in the wardrobe. Next day he did the same thing so I hung the 2nd t shirt and jumper up on top of the 1st (we're short on wardrobe space so often hang multiple tops on one hanger).

This morning DH, myself and DS (12) are in our bedroom, we're getting ready for the day and DH finds his t-shirt/jumpers hanging up. Takes them down and says 'what have you done here, the t shirts are dirty, why have you hung them up?'.

For some background info DH is generally very good around the house, does his share and we can both be a bit lazy about picking up our clothes straight away, we both pick up after eachother sometimes.

Would this have created an argument in your house?

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dementedpixie · 05/01/2022 08:05

I wouldn't have hung them back up but would have dumped them in the corner where dh usually keeps clothes that can be worn again. I wouldn't have washed them unless they were in the laundry basket

JustFrustrated · 05/01/2022 08:06

In all honesty, yes.

I'd have lost my shit. Because it's so disrespectful. He leaves his shit around for the magical cleaning fairy, and when she fails to read his mind he's a dick? So actually in my situation, if this was to occur (which it wouldn't because the one time it did, even the neighbours picked their stuff up), an argument would occur.

That being said, it sounds like you both do this, so probably different. In that situation I'd have just pointed out that he left it, you tidied it. Next time do it himself.

BeLessMe · 05/01/2022 08:06

No because I’d just say ‘if they are dirty, why didn’t you put them in the laundry basket?’.

DH has suddenly started taking pj bottoms off and leaving one leg inside out like a 5 year old so that how I hang them on the rack. There is nothing he can say about that because it’s his own fault. He gets me back by not ironing my t-shirts that I’ve taken off and washed inside out.

Annaghgloor · 05/01/2022 08:06

I’d have stepped over them on the ground in the first place. Not the housemaid.

JasmineGarden · 05/01/2022 08:06

No, but I expect him to pick up his own clothes. However, if I did pick up after him I'd separate out the clothes, put the underneath item in the wash & fold the jumper up to put on the chair.

Nothing worn goes into the wardrobe or drawers as that attracts moths.

Luckyducky75 · 05/01/2022 08:07

I just dump DHs in the corner and watch him bite his tongue when he wants to complain he has no clean clothes 🤣🤣 he knows what answer he'll get from me 👍

EmmasMum12 · 05/01/2022 08:07

Not an argument no. I'd just have said that as they weren't in the laundry to do basket, I assumed they were clean so helpfully hung them up

ThoseFestiveLights · 05/01/2022 08:08

I would have thrown it on his side of the bed for him to deal with. But why would an adult leaves clothes on the floor like that? I’d have lost my shit long ago.

DropYourSword · 05/01/2022 08:12

I’d have got him to pick them up in the first place. I definitely wouldn’t have hung up a dirty t-shirt and I would have been really irritated at my DH if he did. I would be questioning his common sense!

thewhatsit · 05/01/2022 08:30

No it wouldn’t, but neither of us gets worked up about stuff like that.

I probably wouldn’t have hung it up in the first place but left it all in a pile on his side of the bed for him to deal with. I can also be a bit lazy with my clothes and I do tidy up but it might be half a day later and I wouldn’t expect DH to judge me because I also have a pile of clothes to sort through.

If I had hung it up and he asked I’d say oh sorry, it was still in the jumper. Neither of us washes clothes after every single use so how would I know if it was to be washed? Same goes for him if he moves my clothes around. He doesn’t know if I want something washed and I wouldn’t presume he should know.

MajorCarolDanvers · 05/01/2022 08:37

I'd have left them lying on the floor complained to him about not picking his clothes up at the time.

He's an adult. He can pick his own clothes up.

jendifer · 05/01/2022 08:49

I’d have asked why he didn’t put them in the wash. But he also has a place for worn clothes he wants to wear again so I’d have prob put them there rather than hanging them up and out the T-shirts in the wash.

I’m not a cleaning fairy though- we both tidy up the house and me putting away a jumper he has used feels similar to him washing up a mug I used.

Saz12 · 05/01/2022 09:33

I’m the messy one in our house... If DH tidied my stuff up “wrong” I’d not complain about it, though I’d assume he was making a point if he put dirty clothes back into wardrobe, as it’s usually me who does the washing.
In reality we clean and tidy after each other.

thewhatsit · 05/01/2022 09:55

I’m not a cleaning fairy though- we both tidy up the house and me putting away a jumper he has used feels similar to him washing up a mug I used.
Yes this is us too. Thankfully we are not a couple that keeps score or where one person doesn’t do anything (I wouldn’t have married him and had his children if we’d been either of those two types of couples). If I find his used pants on the floor I’ll put them in the washing basket and vice versa.

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