How much of your time at home is spent "making nice"

[JMAngel1]

I've realised over the last week of Xmas relaxing, that so much of my time at home is usually spent either tidying, cleaning, sorting, gardening, exercising, showering, body/skin/hair-care for me and DDs
It's exhausting! I had a good few days off lazing around not caring about the state of the house or the state of me but it's actually getting me down a bit now and I'm feeling in a funk so know that I need to get back on the "make nice" wagon.
Does anyone else feel like this? Or is this just normal society life now - the garden, house, children and ourselves have to look good?

Hardly any. I do my make up in the mornings and a bit of cleaning daily. I can't be arsed with skincare or any of that faff, I wash and go. Men don't do it, why should I?

You're only exercising and showering to "look good"?

Those things are just part of a normal healthy lifestyle.

Yup. Constant cleaning/tidying/washing. My husband commented once that ‘you really love cleaning that job don’t you’ because I clean it after every use. Well that went down like a lead balloon! The hob is on an island. If it’s a mess it makes the whole kitchen look messy!

He cleans but my standard of clean is a lot higher than his. But he does most of the laundry as I hate that shite and refuse to iron.

Christmas hols was deffo a slog but will relax now everything’s back to normal.

@dworky

None. Life is too short & women are not born to housekeep or to look pretty for men.

Yup

Same here. I've had a few days not bothering and being lazy - the end result, I feel a bit unwell, depressed and my house is now a source of stress that I feel defeated by! Need to crack on with it!

Is that you Dorinda?

Quite a bit. We have a cleaner who just cleans so I do all the tidying. On the weekends we do jobs around the house or gardening which also takes some time. Maybe 50% of my non-work time is spent on the house.

I wouldn't call it 'making nice'. There are basic personal hygiene and housework that everyone has to do. If I leave the kitchen for more than a day it looks disgusting - and I'm pretty tolerant of mess.
My bedroom can get pretty untidy, but definitely the 'public' rooms are kept smart. And bathrooms.
It has nothing to do with a man - I don't have a partner and when my husband was alive he was far tidier than me. I think it's self respect. And yes it is a chore - I read somewhere that 70% of being an adult was putting things away! That seems true much of the time...

I wish I knew what this feeling of can't relax until it's clean is like... I'm the opposite really, I really struggle to do much cleaning and self care when I'm tired and / or down, but then once I've bounced back a bit I can quite happily get on and do stuff. Also would rather do it when everyone has fecked off, which doesn't happen often.

I'm also not too picky with what needs doing before I sit down - life is far too short. Sitting down is my treat at the end of the day, I'm not going to reduce that by doing something that will need to be done again tomorrow anyway. No-one in my care has died as a result (yet).

@Thecomfortador

I wish I knew what this feeling of can't relax until it's clean is like... I'm the opposite really, I really struggle to do much cleaning and self care when I'm tired and / or down, but then once I've bounced back a bit I can quite happily get on and do stuff. Also would rather do it when everyone has fecked off, which doesn't happen often.

I'm also not too picky with what needs doing before I sit down - life is far too short. Sitting down is my treat at the end of the day, I'm not going to reduce that by doing something that will need to be done again tomorrow anyway. No-one in my care has died as a result (yet).

It’s not about life being too short...i always sit down in the evenings....but my home is clean and tidy because I keep on top of it and that’s the way I like it ..... other people are not so fussed....and that’s fine too if that’s how they prefer to live

I'm not sure really, my house is aesthetically pleasing because my DH is an Architect but I miss more than anything not caring. I miss us being young and not caring.