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Struggling mum!

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ShantellRx · 02/01/2022 21:43

Hey Lovelies! I'm new to this site. I've found myself here hoping to get some help and advice.
I'm a mum to a little boy who turns 3 in May and a 9m old little girl.
Just recently my little boy has become very jealous of any attention I give my little girl. He's started being very naughty and completely ignoring anything me or their dad say.
When I had my little girl I use to get really upset at the thought of my boy may feel left out or jealous so I made sure he always had my attention whenever we could. We still had one on one time and days out together.
But since the beginning of December he has completely changed.
I'm not afraid to admit, I'm struggling to parent him so much at the minute because no matter what I say or do, he just doesn't care.
Has anyone had any type of experience like this before?
I've tried spending more time with him, being involved in play time, talking, reading with him etc. But, the second I give my daughter any attention, it's like a switch flicks in him and he becomes the devil.

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Mull · 02/01/2022 21:57

It’s tricky but I’d say it’s best to try to ignore him when he plays up because you are giving attention to your DD. He wants the attention back, and negative (telling off) attention will do. As long as you know that you are spending lots of time with him, giving him 1-2-1 time etc then it is perfectly reasonable that you also need to give your baby attention. All easier said than done though!

KILNAMATRA · 03/01/2022 08:51

My daughter started watching every move I made with her brother when she was 3 or 4. Do one day I said doyou think l love him more than I love you?” She said “but you do!!” So I keep telling them different people are good at different things, and that’s the magic … and I live different things about each of them.. also name the feelings helped.. encouraging my son to say I feel jealous! Helped a lot.. name the feelings.. lots of feelings books in the library…

WeaninWoes · 03/01/2022 08:58

Good book - how to talk so little kids will listen

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