Widowed

[Simonmeakin]

Sorry, I'm male,yes I know my faults,hahaha,my wife passed away 2yrs ago Feb coming.these last 2 Christmases have been hard, although we wanted kid's, Julia couldn't,I held her hand and told her that I love her as she drifted away.my question is?why do I feel so guilty if I meet someone I like?I have meet someone,why am I trying to find a way not to be happy? what's wrong with me?

Pants wrong thread sorry
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Apols

Survivors guilt, maybe?
What would your wife have wanted for your future?

Sorry for the loss of your wife. I haven't had a similar experience, but I can only say it sounds totally natural. Your relationship didn't come to a natural end, so of course you will feel conflicted.

If it is early days, I would just give yourself more time. If it feels like you are a bit stuck, perhaps grief counselling would help.

All the best to you for 2022.

Have you thought about counselling to help you to overcome these new feelings of guilt?

I’m sorry for your loss op.

I think:

a) it’s very early days
b) guilt

I’m widowed too, and when I look back, I honestly can’t remember 95% of the first year after dh died. Year 2 was when the shock wore off for me, and was much worse.

But we all process grief in different ways, and to different time scales. If you’ve met someone then all I’d say is enjoy, but don’t make any big decisions yet.

To,late.i stupidly went onto a dating site called singles.com,met what I thought was a lady to try to find that human touch,her name was fire starter, Jenny. turn's out I was just a cash cow.so peeps I'm just going to be by myself till I go meet the one person that I knew loved me.its all a waste of time.love you all,stay safe, silly, Simon out.

Hi,I was just wondering,why do young mommy's who's man friends (I use the term man very loosely) have run away,why they don't go for a more mature man, that will respect, love and be faithful, but above all, take care of them.sorry peeps,I can't sleep and my brain is wired, just a thought.