What age is it too old to get married and have children?

[SouthMan28]

Hi all, the start of the new year has got me wondering as I’m turning 29! What age do you guys think is too old for marriage and kids?

You're never too old to get married.
More often than not, your body decides when you're too old to have children. 29 isn't by any stretch of the imagination.

You can get married any age.

Pretty common to have dc up to your early 40s.

To get married? There is no upper limit. Some of the happiest marriages I know started in their 70s or even later.

To have biological children, if you're a woman, generally by your early 40s. It can be hard at the upper end of that, but it's doable.

For adoption, the usual upper limit is set in your late 40s, but if you want to adopt an older child, that number can be higher.

I got married at 36 and got pregnant on honeymoon, so there's hope for you yet!

Met dh at 33. Became a couple at 35. Married at 37. Had ds at 40. You've got ages yet.

You're never too old to get married.

Never too old to get married. Honestly I wouldn't have children over the age of 45.

Never to old to get married but fertility starts to decline from late 30s or so

Marriage never too old. Kids 45

It’s a very personal thing. I’m 44, dealing with the onset of perimenopause and simply could not deal with waking up to a newborn every 2-3 hours.

I had my dc in my early 30s and even then found that very hard. I think those nights spent clubbing in my early 20s or debating philosophy and politics into the wee hours were intended by Mother Nature for taking care of little ones.

However, I was ready in my 30s for the responsibility and had more patience and life experience and confidence than my 20s so my dc benefitted from that.

And socioculturally I was hitting the norm in my neighbourhood and that’s easier than being either the oldest/youngest in the baby groups or at the school gates.

Twenties is a decade of striving, and proving your worth and I felt much older (and passed it) in my late twenties than I have since. Thirties was a much nicer decade by comparison - you can sit into your own confidence, you’re still young but not immature, and you just don’t get pushed around in the same way; it’s a brilliant period of life. (I won’t bore you with how good it is to be in my 40 yet) I far preferred being in my 30s to my 20s - if a genie offered me the chance to be any age again, nothing would convince me to go back to my twenties.

I had my son early, but never married and was a single mother until he was 18.

At 34 I had an ultrasound scan, where they found I had PCOS, I was warned that I needed to try for another baby within a year or so, or it wouldn't happen

Met now DH when I was 39, we married within two months of meeting, I found out I was pregnant the day before our wedding and gave birth when I was 40 (DS just shy of 19).

Got pregnant the next year and gave birth just before I was 42 (sadly she died and I almost died giving birth).

29 is still so young. Things happen when you least expect them.

@Goldygold

Marriage never too old. Kids 45

45 is too late for kids for many women, most I'd say.

Marriage - any age.
Children - about 40, fertility takes a dive around then. I know some women get pregnant into their 40's but there are risks.

I'm sorry for your loss Player456.

Alison Pearson talks about "catch 32" as the latest age to realistically meet a mate , get to know each other and have children.

At 29 I was still avoiding settling down like the plague, lol. I got with now dh at about 31, I was still saying no kids until dc1 came along as a surprise at 34, married at 37, dc2 at 38. 29 is too young to be panicking.

Op, please don't think marriage and children are the only option. I married at 29 and had 2 children and deeply regret it all. My whole life and sense of self vanished and it instead became daily drudge, which continues to this day.

Met at 37, married 38, DS1 at 39 second DS almost 42.
No intention of ever having children until meeting DH.

I had kids before marriage and was a single mum. Didn't meet the right man till I was late 20s and got married in my early 30s. Depending on how much you want kids I'd see that as a separate issue and not wait around for a man.

You can get married at any age. Kids before 45 ideally although my auntie had a ds at 49; he's 21 now and it all worked out fine. But ideally I'd say before 45.

I met DH at 37, married at 38, DD at 39. Now 40, trying for another.

Why do you think there's an age limit on getting married?