Sad that my family is not close

[notmybusinessanymore]

I live at home with my parents and siblings, my siblings and me are all aged between 17 and 22.

We are having a New Year's Eve at home together for various reasons. In my head, it was going to be a nice family evening - my DM and I have prepared a buffet and I thought we'd sit and watch a film or something. I made my brother's favourite dish especially for him. He walked in, looked at the food and scoffed that he didn't want any of it and I said I made your favourite especially for you and he just went 'nah' and went back to his room. My sisters grabbed food and went back to their rooms.

It happened on Christmas Day too. We all ate Christmas dinner alone. There's a box of Christmas crackers still sat unopened in the dining room. It hurts me, like a pang. I know I need to build a life beyond my family of origin and I hope my future partner has a close-knit family.

We also have next to no relationship with our extended family. My DM has often comforted me that it's ok that we don't have a relationship with our grandparents or aunties and uncles because we have 'our little family' - well look at how our little family has ended up.

Are you the eldest? Lovely of you to make your brothers favourite meal.
Maybe they wanted to be out with friends, at a club or anywhere other than at home with their parents on NYE? I cant imagine many teens or early 20's that would normally be at home for NYE!

It’s a harsh reality.
You can rules that everyone is at the table to eat when it’s your little family in your own little home.