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Crying myself into the new year!

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Mommabear20 · 31/12/2021 20:54

DH has changed since around midway through my pregnancy with DS who is now 5 months old. He's gone from being loving and attentive, to finding his phone more interesting than me and DC. Hers always has a temper but not the smallest thing will set him off 😞
DS is going through a phase of taking 1-2 hours to settle to sleep on a night. I said I was going to get a quick shower this evening and could hear him getting annoyed with DS for crying 😢 he then proceeded to shoot at DDog who had had an accident (wee) in the kitchen and shouted so much he scared our other DDog into doing the same. The result is a crying 5 month old, crying 18 month old and 2 scared dogs. He went out for a walk as her said ' well clearly I'm not wanted around here right now!' Leaving me with all 4 to console. Have just got the DC back to sleep and he's come home and to bed as if nothing happened! This isn't the first time he's lost his shit but I think it hit for the first time that it's not going to get better 😢

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Holothane · 31/12/2021 20:58

The selfish git how dare he treat you and children dogs like that. I’d be thinking of your future without him.

InFiveMins · 31/12/2021 20:59

He sounds vile OP. Sorry but I'd leave him in a heartbeat.

Mommabear20 · 31/12/2021 21:01

I'm not financially in a position to leave 😔 and don't have family who are financially able to help either.

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Squiff70 · 31/12/2021 21:02

OP I'm so sorry you're going through this. You need a very honest chat with DH about why he's acting like this. Clearly something is on his mind and he might open up to you if you approach things calmly and rationally, even though he isn't being calm or rational. Is he worried about something? Are you okay financially? If he has a job is it secure?

He can't keep acting like this, especially around two babies who will pick up on the tension. Tell him gently how much he's upset you and remind him he can talk to you about whatever is on his mind.

If all else fails you both might like to consider couple's counselling. I hope things can be sorted between you. You don't need this and neither do your children.

YouCantTourniquetTheTaint · 31/12/2021 21:05

I'm sorry he's treating you and your DC's like this, it's not right, and I hope you know that it's not right. Are you safe?

I hope you're rethinking your relationship with him, as do you really want 20/30/40 more years of this? Dogs so scared they've pissed themselves, and DC's crying because they're scared too, it's not fair on them, and it's not fair to you.

Please look at the freedom programme, and women's aid Flowers

Mommabear20 · 31/12/2021 21:21

Yes we're all safe. While he has a temper he's never ever been violent, just shouts. Just not how I pictured my new year starting 😔

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Holly60 · 31/12/2021 21:39

Could he be depressed?

Waftypants · 31/12/2021 21:40

Oh dear, i hope things look up for you Flowers

GrannytoaUnicorn · 31/12/2021 21:50

@Mommabear20

I'm not financially in a position to leave 😔 and don't have family who are financially able to help either.
You don't need to be in any kind of financial position to leave. Women's aid can & will provide whatever you need (not just a flat in a refuge, but literally ANY necessity you or your kids may need). You can even take your pets. In fact they will even pay for a taxi to pick you up and will pay for your possessions to be collected later and put into storage.

Please leave

Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 31/12/2021 22:43

@Holly60

🙄

Could he not just be a bullying little twat no?

Notwithittoday · 31/12/2021 22:56

Is there much sleep going on? The transition from
One to two kids is hard and you’ve got a small gap. It’s kind of relentless. Not excusing his behaviour but maybe he’s finding it overwhelming

RiverSkater · 31/12/2021 23:09

@Holly60

Could he be depressed?
Yes, the poor man shouting at anybody defenceless must be depressed.
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