How to make 2022 my best year yet?

[lovegreece]

I’m sick of slobbing on the sofa, spending too much time scrolling on my phone, not achieving my goals, eating crap, feeling like crap, drinking too much, having a messy house, never doing very much at all with my life.

I don’t want to be a disappointment to my kids - I want to have a clean house, look good, feel good, eat well, have lots of fun experiences and create lots of memories with my family.

How can I make sure that 2022 is the year this finally happens?

Following cos feel the same!
Given the chance I am so lazy!

Small steps.

Pick one small change to make and turn that into a habit.

Only once that change is a habit do you make the next change.

If you try and change everything at once you will overwhelm yourself and have given up again by the end of January.

What would be your first step?

@user15364596354862

Small steps.

Pick one small change to make and turn that into a habit.

Only once that change is a habit do you make the next change.

If you try and change everything at once you will overwhelm yourself and have given up again by the end of January.

What would be your first step?

This. But remember, habits take time to form.

It can take anywhere from 18 to 254 days for a person to form a new habit and an average of 66 days for a new behaviour to become automatic.

Yes! I feel exactly the same way! Had my baby during lockdown 1, I want us to finally get out there & do stuff. Live our lives!
I’ve got Covid right now, so after this I’m ready! I also want to to this for my kid, to make him proud of his mum.
Been losing the baby weight, last few months. Want to continue on with that. Un-fuck my house, big-time! It’s been a mess since the little fella arrived.
But, I can blame baby... I’ve always been messy! However, I feel like, I’m 45 now. Now is my time.

Can’t...

My first step would be weight loss and healthy eating.

That’s a lot . I would not prioritise having a messy house - that can be frustrating .
Agree with others start with small changes that make you feel good.Delicious healthy food and fizzy water to star with ? Phone scrolling - have a certain time and place to do it- like 15 mins at the eve of the day when kids are in bed?
You’ll get so much more time for yourself with that change

I meant tidy house

Start manifesting and buy a journal! Write in it an follow the manifesting guidelines.

I did this last year - best year yet!

Thanks - yes it is a lot. I’m in such a rut and my life needs a complete overhaul.

One issue I have is that whenever I try to do something nice for my family it often doesn’t live up to my expectations - the kids don’t enjoy it as much as I’d hoped for example, or the weather is crap etc etc.

I’m also completely dog tired. But sick of coasting through life in a chaotic state and want to take control.

@Bubbles1st what are the manifesting guidelines? I’ve not heard of that before. Also, how has writing in a journal helped you?

I would start with addressing drinking...it effects everything else.

@lovegreece
So I started with a 30 day manifesting journal,
Take you through daily prompts like what you are grateful for, what you desire, what positive traits would people see in you, positive affirmations, how would you spend money if you had it.

All about positive mind set, it really helped me see the good in my life and myself and stopped me dwelling on the negative. Opened my heart up to what I really wanted in life and gave me the motivation.

The journal is started with was from Amazon by emma Kate Lawson. I would highly recommend it

Small steps every day.

More water. Taking things upstairs/out to the bin whenever you're going past if they should live there to avoid clutter and mess. Meal planning so you a) have more time and b) know what your eating. Don't count calories, look at what it is you're eating - are they natural whole foods or ultra processed stuff? If it's ultra processed, add more veggies in to help counteract that.

Start off by stopping the phone scrolling. The rest will follow as you find yourself with more time abd motivation

Same OP

@lovegreece I could have written exactly what you did!

I'm deleting fb and Instagram off my phone tomorrow for exactly the same reasons

I was just a about to write a post like this but yours sums it up perfectly,

I want to be the person off to park run, not sleeping off a Friday hangover.

I think you just need to do it but how? There was a post on here a few days ago about stacking habits which sounded useful.

Habit stacking under chat. Sorry no good at links on phone☺️

Yep, this is me too. And I desperately want to change it.

Good luck to everyone, we can do this. Small steps forward every day! I know when I feel better, I feel more motivated, and I do well, until I ultimately have one bad day and go back to bad habits. But despite a lonely evening, I’m feeling positive for tomorrow and 2022. The year we make the change!

Start off with one rule - limit your phone time to whatever you think will work for you and stick to it.
You’ll have to fill in the time with all the things you want to do.
Things like
Meal plan for the week.
Find new places in your local area and further and go somewhere once a week.
Get active with the kids. Go to the park and play with balls, frisbees, kites and bike rides.
Do chores while you listen to interesting podcasts or audiobooks.

I can also recommend a good book called make time.
Make your phone distraction free (remove notifications) I may well take MN off my phone for this very reason