I don’t have any friends

[SouthMan28]

I’m 28 and don’t have any friends to go out and do things with. The only people I know outside of family and my girlfriend are colleagues, but they’re not the sort of people who you meet outside of work. I’m just wondering if any of you don’t have any friends? And I’m just wondering how I would get some? As I haven’t been in contact from anyone in school and college for years! Could anyone give me some advice?

Have a look for online & offline groups focused on topics you’re interested in - meetup.com is a good place to start. Or maybe local volunteering opportunities.

I met a lot of my current friends through feminist campaigning which obviously isn’t something I’m recommending for you, but it’s an example of how shared interests can work.

28 is so close to your school and college years that you could easily reconnect through social media. You are probably introverted anyway, so bear in mind the number of friends you ever have you could count on one hand, ignoring the thumb.

Look for clubs and meetings in your local area which should be listed in local papers or library or internet search.

Go for something which interests you then you should meet people that you have something in common with...of all ages.

Here there is a walking club, gardening society, local history group, wood turning meetings, drumming club, gyms, football, cricket, tennis, rugby clubs, curry club, book club, water polo evenings, cycling clubs.....etc.

Neither do I, I find it impossible to make friends as an adult.

It's not a bad situation to be in. A bit like 'I haven't got any potatoes.' No need to be sad - just go and get some, there's plenty out there.

What do you like to do with your time? Find a group of people who do the same. Then you've immediately got something in common. You won't get on with everyone who shares that interest, but really, you only need one friend, because if you're the same sort of person, they'll introduce you to their friends/more groups etc.

It's not hard. It takes a bit of time. It's an enjoyable process though.