My DH and I are incredibly lucky to have two wonderful kids, aged 1 and 4. We love them very much but we never manage to get ANY time together alone and I don't know where we are going wrong- help!
We have no family support at all- we've both lost our parents and I'm an only child, his siblings are a lot older and live 6+ hours away so there's literally no-one to have the kids for us. We have lovely friends but expecting people to take on 2 small kids when most of them have kids of their own isn't really fair.
We both work (him weekday mornings/ afternoons/ weekend evenings, me weekday afternoons and evenings) so that one of us has the little one and can collect the big one from nursery. The only alternative we can see is to pay the 18 hours for little one to go to nursery (that's the minimum we could put him in due to their policy) but to do that we'd both need to change jobs and hours and both work full time anyway so wouldn't see each other more. We have weekend time together but obviously have the kids then and we do family stuff but nothing just the two of us.
I'm thinking professional babysitting but they are HORRENDOUS sleepers (hence we have no evening time together at all) and we sleep in separate rooms- me with the baby and him with the 4 year old so we don't have any time at night either.
It's really affecting our relationship now - we have no time together alone for anything- let alone a sex life!
What am I missing- other people must be in this position- how can we get time together?