Moment when you knew your relationship was dead in the water.

[NoEffingWay]

With me it was the realisation that I was bored of the same stories I had heard 1000's of times, that his feet made me feel ill and he was just repulsive. All happened over a few months. 🤮🤮

When I saw him making an effort with friends at his golf club who were successful and purposeful to him and making no effort at all with other friends who were equal or had less paid jobs than him.
Gave me the right ick and made me hate him.

When I met him he was the type to talk to anyone, welcome anyone, be everyone’s friend.

When he raised a butchers block chopping board at me and told me it would be 'going somewhere if you don't shut the fuck up'...

When I realised that I never wanted to go on holiday with him again, that all social occasions were infinitely improved by him not being there, the sound of his chewing, the sound of his snoring, the sound of him shouting, the scariness of him driving..... oh dear I could go on and on and on..... but he’s gone now so I don’t have to.

When I went shopping for his Christmas present, but wandered round and round before realising the thought of another Christmas with him would be miserable.

Left him in November and by Christmas was living with the love of my life, and we've been married 13 years now.

When a friend was talking about how happy she was that her husband was going on holiday for a week. We all agreed that we preferred our lives when our husbands weren't in it. I just thought 'what on Earth are we all doing then?' Then, praise the Lord, my ex had an affair and I was given my get out clause.

When we went on holiday and he walked off with my purse, mobile and bottles of water for me and DS, who was 2 at the time.

I was left with DS, his change bag and all the stuff for a day at the beach, in the middle of a strange town in 30 degree heat

Looking back, it was that feeling of dread when I heard his key in the lock. Or wondering where he was when an hour late home from work again, and not caring. It took a lot longer to actually leave, but there's no going back from those feelings. (Much, much happier now!!)

I came home to a note on the kitchen table.

Looking back, it was that feeling of dread when I heard his key in the lock.

We had a gravel drive and I remember that sinking feeling every time I heard his car pull up, never knowing what kind of mood he would be in.

Last NYE when I cried at the thought of another year ahead with him. Even if I'm sat on my own this NYE I'll be happier than I was then.

Two moments:

One was when I heard on the news that a car similar to his had gone off a bridge near to where he worked. My husband at the time was late home and there was just a second between hearing that and thinking, "Well, that might not be the worst thing..." and hearing his key in the lock.

The other was watching him eat and resenting the food for keeping him alive.

I had my reasons for all this, believe me.

Now, I'm not a fan of my own feet, but I never thought about the possibility of them making someone else ill.

When I just couldn't stand hearing his voice any more.

And this might sound weird but he had a dirty job but would wear the same clothes all week no matter how dirty as there was no point apparently in washing them. One day I stuck them in the wash as I normally would. I pulled out the washing after ajd it was all dusty/dirty. So I had to re wash it all.

I just thought to myself, we don't do anything together as a family and now I even have to wash his clothes separately.

What exactly is the point of this.

I ended it a year ago. So glad I did.

When he told me that my reality wasn’t real and flipped out because I’d paused at ‘the wrong point’ in a sentence, thereby misleading him…
Much happier and safer now.

When I had the phone call from the police to say he'd come off his bike and was in Resus. I walked in to see him, saw he was alive and well-ish and all I felt was relief for my children. No emotion for me at all.

When l found out he was knocking someone else off, l was just relieved cos it was my get out of jail free card!

when i realised the thought of him touching me made me recoil in disgust.

@Forgothowmuchlhatehomeschoolin

When l found out he was knocking someone else off, l was just relieved cos it was my get out of jail free card!

Same for me. I could tell everyone we were splitting up because he had a girlfriend. Clear and simple.