Tossing a coin to decide whether to join husband Florida, any better methods?

[CovidisaThiefofJoyandcandoone]

My husband is in Florida visiting his dad and I’m due to join him flying out on 2nd.

My 19 year old will be looking after the gcse-year 16 year old. So the risk is of us both being denied boarding on the return flight leaving the boys an ocean away which feels long.

I can get a voucher and put it towards travel later.
I’ll get 5 full days in Florida and see my nice fil and sil.
Cases are surging there. Any advances on tossing a coin Mumsnetters? I long to go but dread getting stuck. The

Any advances

Sorry that should finish after the word “stuck”!

I would not go without them in this current situation. X

I've seen a few of your threads on this, if you're so conflicted, then I think the answer is not to go. If you thought it was the right thing to do you'd have decided by now!

Have you still not made a decision on this? Didn’t the previous threads help?

I wouldn’t go.

I know Nicknacky I’m sorry!

I have never veered so much in my life!
Usually I’m good a making decisions :)

I wouldn’t

Very tricky but I don’t think I’d risk it in the current climate.

I promise I don’t usually start three threads on same topic within a month.....

Have you seen the rates in Florida right now? I've literally just seen this on my insta feed

I wouldn't go op, if you're stressed about it now I can imagine you'll just worry the whole time you're there (well I would in your scenario)

My BIL lives in Florida and after returning from the UK for his dads funeral 10 days ago, had awful trouble getting back in - and hes been there 25 years. It isn't just cases, potential positives etc, it is rule changes overnight whilst you are there. I'd personally be staying put.

from what you’ve posted here and in previous threads I think the stress and worry would take away any of the enjoyment of being there. You wouldn’t be able to relax while there.

I wouldn’t.
The chances of getting stuck out there and leaving your children at home longer than you expected are just too high. And if you get it and get really ill would your insurance cover it?

How much do you want to see your in-laws?
I hate to be so down the line but they are just in-laws, your children are more important.
It could all be fine but what if you get covid and get sick? I had it in March and there is no way I would have been up for travelling from Florida to the U.K. for at least a month, but that was before I had a chance to be vaccinated.
My friend was was double jabbed and had had her booster had it from the Saturday before Christmas, she is still feeling too ill to even contemplate a day trip.

I’m not catastrophising but this is spreading like wildfire right now.

What is the point in going? Your son is young enough to need you present, even if in the background. Your dh can cope without you. Both oarents away didn't great for school kid. Stay put.

Changed my mind about 6 more times in my sleep.... (slept curiously well, it was dreams).

If you need to ask the question, I wouldn't go.

Be pragmatic @CovidisaThiefofJoyandcandoone

Yes, it would be lovely to have a few days in the Florida winter sunshine. I love Florida and can't wait to go back.

But, your 16 year old is in their most important Gcse year. And is due to go back to school just at the point when case numbers will surge. There will be no national school closures. All schools will be expected to get on with it. There will be last minute year group closures due to staff shortages. Hopefully, none of this will affect your dc but the uncertainty of it all will. You need to be here to help your ds navigate all of that.

I would not leave all of that to a 19 year old sibling to manage. You need to be here, physically and emotionally, for your dc in what coukd Well be a bumpy few weeks. Not in Florida.

I thought you had decided? Still the situation same isn’t it? I wouldn’t go.

There is some emotional baggage/resentment about not going/missing out
Also a temptation to cancel for bad reasons (fear of flying).

Plus the surge in Florida has been just this last week.

I’m going to postpone.

I think your decision to postpone is the right one.

Someone where I work with was stuck overseas for months - went to visit relatives in the spring and then wasn't able to come back until the autumn. I know it's extreme circumstances but at the time they went there were no restrictions; within a week everything changed.

I get the resentment over missing out etc. I really do. It's crap that so many of us have missed out on so many important things over the past 2 years.

But, the most important person in this is your 16 year old ds. Nothing comes above his need to have stability and support in the next few weeks and months in the run up to his GCSEs. And that has to come from his parents. Not his 19 year old sibling.

I appreciate everyone who took the time to reply.

In truth I was surprised by the consensus. ALL my friends here were encouraging me to go. I don't know why but I think it's like a symbol of joy for someone to "buck the trend"?? Several volunteered to look in on the boys but .... as discussed on these threads ... that doesn't stop DS(16) being my responsibility.

The voucher has arrived so that's like a nice hopeful thing to have isn't it?

Now then - another problem - DH keeps sending me photos of the beach/family. Do I tell him "that's nice dear" or FUCK OFF?

"Someone where I work with was stuck overseas for months - went to visit relatives in the spring and then wasn't able to come back until the autumn. I know it's extreme circumstances but at the time they went there were no restrictions; within a week everything changed."

Wow that's really something!!
what country?

on moneysavingexpert.com they have a paragraph saying that if you are on British Airways flying to the UK they have a duty to get you home asap - butthat's no good if you're ill of course.

Now then - another problem - DH keeps sending me photos of the beach/family. Do I tell him "that's nice dear" or FUCK OFF?

Family = "that's nice dear"
Beach = "ODFOD"

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