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Adult ADHD husband

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tricksyanne · 29/12/2021 11:11

My husband age 41 was diagnosed with ADHD a couple of years ago.

He has always had issues with anxiety, depression, and stress. I'd wondered about ADHD for years before his diagnosis.

He has recently been put on medication for his ADHD and has come off the antidepressants he was previously on. For a while there was a huge positive change, but recently he has hugely slipped.

He is prone to huge temper spirals of anger over very small things. If the remote control is missing he's prone to trashing the living room in a temper looking for it, when it was likely visible the whole time.

Kicking walls and doors, slamming things. Throwing things around.

It's never aimed at me and he's never been aggressive to me.

I don't know what to suggest. Does anyone have any experience of adult male ADHD and how to manage it?

I have put many things in place, a basket by the front door for his keys, reminding him to get ready for the next day in the morning so he's not stressed.

He knows all of these things and can sometimes manage it very well. But more often recently he's just flying off the handle.

OP posts:
user290814356289 · 29/12/2021 11:13

He needs to discover his own coping mechanisms and strategies to manage his outbursts.

I have adhd and so does my son. My son finds it a lot harder with his outbursts because he's 10 but he will learn to manage this side of things as he gets older.

BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation · 29/12/2021 11:17

He needs to go back onto his antidepressants as well as the adhd meds. Both me and my eldest son have adhd and we both need an SSRI to help with the irritability and mood. The adhd meds don't address all the problems that having adhd can cause.

BertieBotts · 29/12/2021 11:22

He needs to go back to the prescribing doctor to discuss these symptoms, random people online can't really help.

HMG107 · 29/12/2021 11:34

ADHD meds are only part of the picture. What is he doing the rest of the time to manage his mood and anger issues?.

What I eat and whether I’m exercising has a huge impact on my mood and stress levels

Mabelface · 29/12/2021 11:51

He needs the antidepressants again. He also needs a meds review for his adhd ones. My OH had the same issues but it's well controlled by trazadone and he's also got an antipsychotic syrup for when his anxiety is really high.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 29/12/2021 12:52

He's probably not taking the medication because he doesn't like the feeling of being 'sedated'.

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