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Baby won’t settle for grandparents please give advice

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Lisa20112010 · 28/12/2021 20:39

Just looking for some reassurance please, my little one is 13weeks and has been round her grandparents one and off since she was born, maybe not as much as possible at the start due to covid but sees them at least once a week and has done from about 6/7 weeks, I will need to go back to work in the next couple off weeks and my mum will be looking after her and I’m really worried she will not settle, some days when she is with my mum she is brilliant and then the last couple off days when she has been with her she is all smiles and enjoying her and then when she gets tired will not settle for my mum and cry’s and cry’s where sometimes she chokes herself and then as soon as I take her she is fine and goes to sleep. My mum does everything possible and everything I do but it doesn’t matter. Will she eventually get better and settle for my mum or will it just make her worse if she is crying so much she gets into a state? I’m a FT mum and I’m so nervous now to leave her incase she just constantly cries?

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Sugarplumfairy65 · 28/12/2021 21:09

Have you actually left her with your mum alone? You may find that she'll settle better if you're not there

Lisa20112010 · 28/12/2021 22:18

Hi,thanks for replying, yes I have left her before and mum has said that she does cry between 5-15minutes hard and then seems to cry herself out. And there has been a few times that she hasn’t cried like that at all?

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FanSpamTastic · 28/12/2021 22:47

Try wearing a scarf or muslin on you then leaving that with your baby while you are gone and your mum can use it to see if it helps her settle with her?

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Mummywantsaweewee · 28/12/2021 22:53

I know this isn’t much help but she wants her mum, she’s fine when you take her because she feels safe then. It’s biological - you’re her mummy and she needs to be close to you to survive if that makes sense. She’s still really small.
Can you leave a well worn unwashed top etc with her and get your mum to warm it up? So maybe she will feel close to you. Practice that a few times before you go back. How do you feed her? Is your mum able to give her a bottle successfully?

Lisa20112010 · 29/12/2021 11:15

Thanks for getting back to me all of you, yes my mum can give her a bottle no problem and she smiles and laughs at her. Thanks I’ll try all those suggestions and just hope she settles quickly

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