End of my wits

[sarahonss1]

Help help help

I have a 5 year old, split with her dad a year ago. He sees her on a weekend. I’ve pushed him to have more time so he can build up more of a relationship with her, he refuses even in holidays. However when she goes on a weekend he buys her anything she wants and there’s gifts there every time she goes. She’s become so spoilt that she has a melt down if I won’t buy her a new toy even though it’s just been Xmas, when she has a meltdown she just says “I want my daddy”. I’m trying to be the best mum I can and my nightmare is for my child to act completely spoilt. I have no relationship with him and he refuses to discuss anything with me at all it has to go through a solicitor. Any advice?

He's a Disney dad. The ultimate in twatty-ness.

He's geñerous with money and goods. He thinks this excuses him from being generous with his time. Maybe discuss it with his parents?

On a more serious note, I have to deal with someone similar in my exH. He lives 200 miles away but if my older sons ask him for Xbox vouchers he buys them £200+ at a time. We limit screen time or the boys end up being emotionally wrecked, so we end up being the 'bad cops'.

It's tough OP. If he doesn't want more contact then don't force it. Reiterate to your daughter that 'I want doesn't get'. She won't like it and it might be confusing for her but in time she will learn.