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Feel so guilty!

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Ohdoleavemealone · 27/12/2021 18:49

Did a LFT yesterday before going to see family. No symptoms but felt that as though elderly Grandparents were going that it was the right thing to do.
All was fine. Spent the day together.
Woke up today feeling awful and have had a positive result!
I feel so guilty. I feel like I should ring and warn my parents as they have a holiday booked that I have now jeopardised and of course grandparents to keep an eye on but selfishly I don't want them to hate me if I have passed it on 😔
I know deep down that if I had refused to go that the drama would have been much worse (last year my mum and sister were on the phone crying, begging me to go see them despite the restrictions) but I don't feel any better.

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TiddlesTheTiger · 27/12/2021 18:52

Have a sit down and a coffee, or whatever, while you get used to the idea and then let them know.

It is not your fault.

WorriedGiraffe · 27/12/2021 18:53

‘I feel like I should ring and warn my parents as they have a holiday booked that I have now jeopardised and of course grandparents to keep an eye on but selfishly I don't want them to hate me if I have passed it on’

You have to notify them, they are close contacts! Not exactly optional. Other than that don’t feel guilty, you took the precautions you could! For all you no you could have caught it from them and they are the asymptotic ones. You’ve nothing to feel bad for, hopefully it hasn’t passed onto them and you feel better soon

Stuffin · 27/12/2021 18:54

This blame game is tiring.

People spread viruses all the time and no one is to 'blame'.

It's time to change that thinking as it's damaging.

If you feel guilty it's because you think that viruses spread through being 'bad' and if you are good then you won't catch covid.

addler · 27/12/2021 19:03

It's thought that Omicron has a very short incubation period, so you could have actually picked it up yesterday.

SarahJessicaParker1 · 27/12/2021 19:05

Aw this sucks op

You did all you could! You didn't choose to get it. Please don't feel guilty

FionnulaTheCooler · 27/12/2021 19:07

Have you actually had a positive PCR or is it on a lateral flow?

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Ohdoleavemealone · 27/12/2021 19:29

Thanks everyone. I know logically it isn't my fault and also that they could have passed it to me but I still feel horrible.
Currently it's only a LFT but I can't imagine the PCR saying otherwise.

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Afonavon · 27/12/2021 19:36

You may have caught it from them!

LittleBabyCheeses · 27/12/2021 19:40

No one is to blame for catching a highly transmissible virus. The sooner people realise that the better, the discourse around it is ridiculous.
You took the necessary precautions. It’s not your fault.

TheHoptimist · 27/12/2021 20:02

@Afonavon

You may have caught it from them!

Not if they met yesterday.

PieonaBarm · 27/12/2021 21:55

@Ohdoleavemealone

Thanks everyone. I know logically it isn't my fault and also that they could have passed it to me but I still feel horrible. Currently it's only a LFT but I can't imagine the PCR saying otherwise.

My DSIL had a positive LFT and a negative PCR. No symptoms. We are all stunned as she works in healthcare on a ward which is riddled at the moment. False positive LFTs are more common than you think.

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