I have survived Xmas with stbex.

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I just needed to 'tell' someone that I managed to get through being civil to my stbexh for large chunks of the last 2 days. By next Christmas I will be Divorced and wo t need to go through this ever again - thank goodness.

I hear you. That's a huge step on the way, well done!

You're amazing! Luckily I'm not in your position but have been in a previous LTR. The festive drinks will taste twice as good next year 🥂

Thank you both x Both my teens have ASD and didn't want to go to their Dad's he moved out of family house 6m ago & has not had then for tea even yet) but they did want to see him so I put their needs first. But it's been a big strain. Waiting till they go to bed to have a bit if a cleansing cry and go to bed myself. Tomorrow IS another day & next year IS another year). Onwards and upwards!

Happy new year, hope it's looking better for you!

Ugh well done OP.

Been there and got the T shirt.

At the time my marriage was in tatters and i was hanging in there till after xmas.

It was 15 years ago now, and am happily remarried, but my clearest memory of that xmas day was my mother (who had no idea) suddenly saying ''Laiste will you please SIT DOWN for more than 10 seconds!''. I was unable to be in the same room as XH and was like a cat on a hot tin roof 24/7 :(

I left him in Jan. The relief was enormous!

Well done.
Keep moving forwards.

Well done now that’s out the way onwards and upwards.

I spoke to a lawyer today. Started the legal Separation process (in Scotland) If he agrees we could be divorced by July under the 1 year rule (even if not, by July 2023 when Dd is 16).

He turned up 'to see the kids' yesterday (they were at schoo!?). He wanted some paperwork - was really aggressive and when I said so he started shouting and throwing stuff at me. I've had enough. I don't want him over the doorstep. Roll on the Separation Agreement being signed and I can change the locks.

It is my Birthday tomorrow. This year I'll be free. Onwards & upwards.

Yes yes yes