I'm always the one he blames

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'D'p always finds a way to make things my fault. I've had enough of it now.

I tried talking to him yesterday after dc went to bed but he couldn't understand what the problem was.

Anything that goes wrong somehow leads back to something I did or didn't do.

He's blamed me for things before in front of our friends and they've laughed thinking he was joking as it was something so ridiculous.

Is it worth ending the relationship over this?
According to him if we split up then the dc would be upset and of course that is because I chose to end the relationship.

The dc will be upset. But they will also get over.

They will also be upset seeing their mother treated appallingly. They will be upset at the tension between you both.

And even more upset, if they end up in shit relationships themselves because they don't have good relationship role models and are taught to stay at all costs.

But most of all (and keep repeating this) if you leave. The split isn't your fault. It's his.

That sounds like an emotionally abusive dynamic.

Children will be upset at the prospect of the relationship ending yes but we don't never do things in life because children might be upset. You should think about whether it is a good decision or not regardless of their feelings. That's your job as the adult.

If you've got to the point of discussing splitting up then it probably is the way to go.

Don’t live like this, constantly on a knife edge. Live free and happy.
The kids will adapt and know no different in the future.
Please don’t make the mistake of staying for the kids.