Friends gifts

[Madge55]

So I have a so called 'friend' and we exchange presents for birthdays and Xmas. For some time now I have felt she is 'managing' me eg the time she will talk to me and the length of time she will talk to me. We WhatsApp and she won't respond to funnies I send but will to our other WhatsApp friend. She has a very well paid and more 'powerful' job than me, so in the scheme of things I'm the minion of this 3 some of friends. Anyway at times I have got her vouchers on my own
or clubbed up with our another friend to get her vouchers from 'nice' shops eg the white company boden jigsaw that kind of thing..... or got her something a little different.....but then in return for example I get argos and low budget options. I don't have a problem with the monetary value but this kind of thing and how she speaks to me at times seems like game playing. So I just carry on being and doing what I would anyway. I have a good friend who knows of her, who thinks she is jealous of me ... there's nothing much to be jealous of .... So I've just got my Xmas present from her and it is a cheap pottery item which I know she wouldn't touch with a bargepole. I've started to notice the head tilt smirk on her face when I speak, condescending look, my gut is telling me this is intentionally trying to undermine me. I honestly hold no threat to her in any way. She is 59 and I'm not far behind , I mean what the hell is her problem ?

She doesn't sound very nice.

Do you feel she looks down on you?

I have a friend a little bit like this. There is not such an obvious difference in our job roles but I feel like she does think she's more successful. This aside, I often feel like her gifts are either cheap or not well thought out when I know she likes nice things and spends more on herself. I don't equate it to her looking down on me but just that she doesn't think enough of me to spend more than maybe £10-15. Sometimes she doesn't buy me gifts at all and if she does they are often late.

I didn't even get a card from her this year.

I have simply stopped buying for her. Gifts do not a friendship make but friends should make you feel good about yourself, you should enjoy their company and feel they enjoy yours, not feel like they look down on you.

She doesn't sound like a good friend to you.

I don't really understand why you exchange gifts - in some ways even more so as you seem to give each other vouchers.

It doesn't sound as if you like her and you are giving the impression that you don't think she likes you very much.

Just move on.

It’s a great time to make resolutions for the year ahead and ditching toxic bitches is a great one!

Vouchers are rubbish anyway.

If you really wanna see if she's your friend, ask her next year for a Xmas lunch together, instead of presents being exchanged. If she doesn't want to you know if she's your friend of not! How we got rid of one of our mates xx