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Would antidepressants help?

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ChristmasDay2021 · 25/12/2021 19:11

I don't think I'm depressed. I'm really happy with my life and recognise how incredibly lucky I am. I have two beautiful young children who are just amazing.

I'm not sure if it's hormonal, but I recently had a coursework deadline and I worked so hard on it. Once it was over I was instantly so relieved and celebrated, but the following week and ever since I've felt really strange. I look at my lovely children and feel like I'm not a proper mum to them and that I'm not a real person. Obviously I know that I am, and I don't feel empty - I love them so much - but I do feel like I'm not good enough for them and I feel this really sad dark feeling a lot of the time (I am always with them so I don't think they are causing it as such just that I happen to feel this way at times when I'm with them).

This all sounds really self absorbed and I promise I'm not like that, I'm just trying to describe the feeling. Neither of them sleep through (sometimes I'm up hourly or more although normally it's only every two or three, one has medical conditions that may or may not contribute) and I wonder if that in addition to the extra pressure from trying to study in the nights has caused this somehow. I do just feel so tired all the time and it's been this way since my eldest was born 3.5 years ago. Every day feels like one of those wired sweaty days from lack of sleep and I always ache. I know lots of mums just get on with this and so do I, I'm comparatively very lucky.

I'm not depressed, I'm still functioning and getting everything done, but might antidepressants take this horrible dark feeling away? It's hard to describe. I'm worried it will affect the children as I feel like I'm going through the motions and being manically cheerful and getting everything all wrong.

I am breastfeeding at the moment but I think my toddler might self wean soon.

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JoMumsnet · 26/12/2021 15:49

Hi ChristmasDay2021,

We're sorry you're feeling so low.

We're just giving your thread a bump in case any Mumsnetters are around to give you some support.

In the meantime we also wanted to post some links to the support that's available to you when you're feeling this way.

As your baby is still fairly young you may well be experiencing postnatal depression, so we'd urge you to take a look at an organisation called PANDAS Foundation which was set up to support families through PND & AND. Their webpage is here and they have a free helpline, available Monday – Sunday 11am-10pm - 0808 1961 776.

We thought we'd also add a link to our Mental Health resources as there are many organisations listed which could give you some more support in real life.

We really hope things start getting easier for you soon. Flowers

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