Unexpected Christmas guests

[Madweary]

Over the years my IL's have sometimes joined us for Christmas dinner, sometimes not either way is fine. It's all been a bit weird over the last couple of years,with covid, especially as MIL is very anxious about covid and family contact.

Anyway we have had a family Christmas Eve gathering tonight with IL's, at one point FIL said something about bringing something tomorrow to me and I didn't question it. Later MIL says something similar, at this point I pull DH aside and said I think your parents think they are coming to us tomorrow, he has no clue either.
MIL then asks what time they should come, I thought I did quite well here and said come when you want but we are thinking of eating about 3. They make noises about coming for 3, which I took as they were expecting dinner. Check with SIL and she said they have been talking about coming to us for months!!
DH and I are like , no idea and nothing has been mentioned previously!
They are welcome we just about have enough food but we are all rather confused. DH hates talking to his mum on the phone as initially I thought he had missed something/ not listened but once we had got the kids out the way and we could properly talk about it, I don't think that's the case as he pointed out they were arranging times for tonight, why wouldn't they ask about timings for tomorrow the next day. Do you reckon they are fucking with us for shits and giggles?

Just ask them. Simple. Say that SIL was expecting them but they implied that they were coming to you,so which is it?. Happy Christmas 🎄

SIL said they have been talking about coming to us not them, great just let us know.

Sorry if I missed this, had you asked them prior to this what their plans were for Christmas?
In our family we speak to my mum and stepdad in October/November every year and ask what their plans are and invite them to us - up to them if they take us up on the offer (they usually do) but I’d never not ask what they were doing. Same with my in-laws, we communicate and invite mil and fil to us - it’s just spoken about before Christmas Eve!

I’m going back to reread the op now…

I think I said something back in October about being welcome if they want to come, which they said they would let us know but then nothing. I had assumed she was waiting to see around case numbers and then decided to stay at home. It is just weird for them to not confirm and double check arrangements, so it came as a bit of a shock.

Tbh you sound about as vague and wishywashy as each other!
I can’t believe your dh hasn’t once thought to ask his parents how they will be spending Christmas Day! (Only as you seem close if they’ve been found for a Xmas Eve meal, obviously not everyone has any kind of relationship with their parents.)
Anyway, I’m sure it will be fine, you have just about enough food, it’s one day - it’ll be okay! Maybe next year actually pick up the phone and have a discussion or do it face to face and just ascertain whether or not they are coming there and then!

@TheChosenTwo

Tbh you sound about as vague and wishywashy as each other! I can’t believe your dh hasn’t once thought to ask his parents how they will be spending Christmas Day! (Only as you seem close if they’ve been found for a Xmas Eve meal, obviously not everyone has any kind of relationship with their parents.) Anyway, I’m sure it will be fine, you have just about enough food, it’s one day - it’ll be okay! Maybe next year actually pick up the phone and have a discussion or do it face to face and just ascertain whether or not they are coming there and then!

Alright Mum

Did they come in the end