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Things I have already been told off for (and it’s only Christmas Eve)

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EduCated · 24/12/2021 21:03

Is anyone else already in trouble with their parents? As a fully grown, otherwise responsible adult?

I’ve been at my lovely parents for approximately 4 hours. I am delighted to be here and to be able to spend it with them. Truly I am.

However, I have thus far:

Drank my glass of Buck’s Fizz too quick.

Ordered gravy with my chip shop order. ‘Oh you didn’t!’ My father was asked to weigh in. Apparently it was marginally better when I said I would only dip the chips, not the fish.

And the real kicker, I admitted to eating a quiche that was a day past it’s use by date. This led to a genuine telling off. Quiche is ‘terrible stuff, awful’ and ‘you mustn’t do that’ and ‘oh EduCated, why would you do that?’. It appears to have been taken as a personal slight that I would play so fast and loose with my digestion. I have not yet contracted botulism, but I’m assured it’s only a matter of time.

Sadly I don’t have DP with me to distract them, as we went for a divide and conquer approach with the families. Please tell me I’m not the only one in trouble?!

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WhenwillIlearntoadult · 24/12/2021 23:51

Noting all this down as examples of what not to do when mine are grown up. Not that I’m an alcoholic! Nor do I care who eats all the Twix. But I did ask the teenager not to drink any more J2o earlier because they’re not all for him!

Larryyourwaiter · 24/12/2021 23:51

I once got in trouble for not using the same towel I had used when I stayed 6 months before as that was now ‘my towel’ apparently.

MIL lost her mind one year as I changed the spare bed on Xmas Eve whilst she was travelling to ours. Apparently bed should always be ready in case she wanted to visit (she only came every few years and we would have other visitors). She was offended for the whole visit obviously.

Keladrythesaviour · 24/12/2021 23:52

I've run out of kitchen roll. Which is, unbeknownst to me, apparently a vital Christmas element.

Benjaminsniddlegrass · 24/12/2021 23:54

Not quite the same but alcoholic uncle decided to text me this evening with the news he has terminal cancer. Merry Christmas!

Franklyfrost · 25/12/2021 00:03

Just everything. Put the kettle on: make sure you’re not going to use this list of mugs. Put one bowl out to prep for tomorrow: that space needs to be clear right now. Indeed, put anything on the table: it needs to be clear. Eat food: it was being saved for something. Don’t eat food: why haven’t you eaten this. Why haven’t I done their washing? The washing has been done wrong. Go and buy yourself a Christmas present from us. That’s the wrong present. Nothing is allowed. It’s awful and makes me so sad for my younger self who had to live here.

bootdilemma21 · 25/12/2021 00:11

@EduCated

Is anyone else already in trouble with their parents? As a fully grown, otherwise responsible adult?

I’ve been at my lovely parents for approximately 4 hours. I am delighted to be here and to be able to spend it with them. Truly I am.

However, I have thus far:

Drank my glass of Buck’s Fizz too quick.

Ordered gravy with my chip shop order. ‘Oh you didn’t!’ My father was asked to weigh in. Apparently it was marginally better when I said I would only dip the chips, not the fish.

And the real kicker, I admitted to eating a quiche that was a day past it’s use by date. This led to a genuine telling off. Quiche is ‘terrible stuff, awful’ and ‘you mustn’t do that’ and ‘oh EduCated, why would you do that?’. It appears to have been taken as a personal slight that I would play so fast and loose with my digestion. I have not yet contracted botulism, but I’m assured it’s only a matter of time.

Sadly I don’t have DP with me to distract them, as we went for a divide and conquer approach with the families. Please tell me I’m not the only one in trouble?!

The cousins (kids), who haven't seen each other for over a year, were playing with each other too enthusiastically. No Victorian, demure sitting around for them. Eyebrows were raised, looks were given, pass agg comments were made.
Everhopeful1 · 25/12/2021 00:52

I am on the other side of this, my son, who apparently has turned into Gordon Fecking Ramsey has done nothing but moan about my unsalted butter, blunt knives & lack of Le Creuset.

thaegumathteth · 25/12/2021 00:53

Oh yes.

For not letting ds drink tonight. He's just turned 15 and I said he can have a wee bit cider tomorrow.

For not letting ds stay up watching TV all night when I have to put the presents out.

For letting dd sleep in with me because she's too excited to sleep otherwise (we're at my mums)

For moving the coffee table so I could get some presents in front of the tree.

For telling the cat not to bite.

For tidying and cleaning the dining room table.

I'm a disgrace.

skintasabint · 25/12/2021 01:12

Family or not. If anyone spoke to me, or treated me like half of these posts they would get told to go f*ck themselves

AcrossthePond55 · 25/12/2021 02:04

Not a 'telling off' per se, but DH objected to my wanting to hoover this evening as it's 'too late for that'. It was 4.30pm. I told him I wouldn't have time tomorrow and just wanted to get it done and he said he'd do it. I made DS2 come in the room and 'witness' that he promised to do it as DH has bouts of 'amnesia convenientus'.

My late mum wouldn't tell me off, but she'd always have a sheaf of clippings from magazines and newspapers for me as she worried 'about my health'. Usually it was the latest quackery from that King Of Quacks, Dr Oz.

KloppsTeeth · 25/12/2021 02:12

This is one of the reasons I am enjoying us having a covid household (now we are all much better) so no visitors are allowed and we have to stay home. That an my mother in law lives over 4,000 miles away and I haven’t seen her in over 2 years. 🥳

MrsBaublesDylan · 25/12/2021 13:35

DH and I haven't been told off at all. Even the censorious seven year old is yet to find fault.

We are parent/in law free (by choice) for the first Christmas ever and it is brilliant.

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EduCated · 25/12/2021 22:00

Made lunch earlier and was interrogated as to the date on the ham is brought ‘in case I was tricking them like with the quiche’.

We’ll still be talking about this bloody quiche at Easter!

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BiddyPop · 25/12/2021 22:13

I'm the black sheep of the family generally.

This year I haven't made enough time for them all.

I spent all but 3 days of my summer holidays with extended family (on both sides) and dd and DH were not around for at least half of the time in each side. When I took extra time off unpaid to unwind after a really really crap year.

I've already had 1 DSibling being extremely passive aggressive this weekend about life in general and the amount of mental load I take on. When same sib has refused assistance and digs into everyone else's business for nosiness and judgement, but not actually being helpful (despite being a secondary school teacher, she's remarkably innocent about teenage girls and their needs, so we've not involved her in the suicidal nature of issues we're dealing with for our teen dd...).

I'm just trundling in, asking relevant questions to make sure DPs have thought about issues and trying to mind dd as much as possible.

My mental health is a casualty of the situation, of course,

Spectre8 · 25/12/2021 22:17

It's really irritating! Why do they do it? My dad always feels like he needs to tell me to drive safely and be careful in the fog, leep your distance, out your lights on. I mean I flipping made it to your house didn't I....ARGHHH

ColourMeExhausted · 25/12/2021 22:31

This is making me smile...and grimace in sympathy! Got told off by my DF for throwing away a Christmas pudding that was two years out of date. Apparently they never go out of date. That's me told...

jmh740 · 25/12/2021 22:50

I didnt eat the Yorkshire pudding my dad made specially.
Ds is a very fussy eater and doesn't enjoy Xmas Dinner I suggested to my dad he would like a Yorkshire pudding to be told you don't have Yorkshire puddings with turkey and there are traditions that need to be upheld.
Dad did make 4 Yorkshires in the end my disabled husband was not well enough to go to my parents today so his Yorkshire was going spare, I suggested my mum might want it but was told not with a Xmas dinner she won't, my pudding was very overcooked and crispy I fed what I could to the dog under the table but left a bit of it on my plate to be called ungrateful. Ds ate his y pud and half the spare one and 6 pigs in blankets.
Dad was not impressed we didn't fawn over these yorkies he had gone against tradition to make and pass aggressively mentioned it many times.
I'm almost 50 felt like I was 5 and was waiting to be told I couldn't leave the table until I'd finished.

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EduCated · 25/12/2021 23:22

Sympathies all Flowers keep on keeping on!

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Mufasa1118 · 25/12/2021 23:26

I've been told off by my mother for eating too many sweets.

I'm 37

IncomeThread · 26/12/2021 00:09

My DS kept making jokes that so was pregnant…. Until I quite forcefully told her I’ve just been diagnosed with secondary infertility (which she knew) and it was really upsetting me, so could she please shut up!

LittleGreyFluffyCat · 26/12/2021 00:45

Every time I visit my mum and step dad I get told off. I just turned 50. Often I get told off on phone calls too, for things I did at their house on my last visit that they forgot to tell me off about at the time.

Thankfully not seeing them this Christmas.

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