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Parking my worries with you

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ManyManyBiscuits · 23/12/2021 07:24

I've been awake for what seems like hours. I've got a lot of thoughts that won't pipe down. I just need to put them somewhere for a bit, so I can get on with the day.

Just need the headspace back to sort out last few seasonal extras. I have to remember to get star anise for the red cabbage.

I have a lovely 14 year old daughter - she is genuinely great but she is sexting with her 14 year old boyfriend. She promises that it's all talk and no action but I'm ambiently suspicious and anyway the messages are worrying enough.

I have a generally smashing 49 year old husband. We've been together over 20 years. His mum has just died. He is understandably very sad but prefers to keep that to himself. I don't know what to say to help.

He is self employed and working a lot including evenings and weekends and I try and keep the household under control to help him but that leads to me feeling just a little bit like there's always a reason why I'm doing more of the home stuff.

He isn't thinking about intimacy at all right now. I feel fat, middle aged and unattractive as a result. I didn't exactly feel great about my appearance before now and the peri-menopause has added an extra stone round my tummy and the inability to drink wine without night sweats and worry-induced wake ups.

My parents are in their 70s and are in pretty good health but their next door neighbour is waging a campaign of harassment against them - I think he has just gone wrong mentally in the lock down. They have had to involve the police and solicitors but they don't want to move and I am furious that he is spoiling their last years of good health and worried he will stress them into illness.

I have a good job but am about to be given a part in a high stress project in the new year.

Oh and you know, Brexit and the climate crisis, growing inequality and the pandemic!

I have a huge number of things that I am grateful for. I have my own activities that I take part in that make me happy. I am comparatively very very lucky. I do have friends to talk to but they also all have their own pile of worries to contend with.

Generally I am a positive person. I just get on with it. But this morning at 6am I was awake and tearful and couldn't stop everything just going round and round and I've got shit to do today.

So if you don't mind, I'm going to put this here for a bit writing it down has helped the swirling. Then I'm going to go and have a shower and a cup of coffee. Thanks for the space.

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ArrrMeHearties · 23/12/2021 07:30

Aww manymanybiscuits sending you a big unmumsnetty hug and some virtual Brew as it's too early for Gin yet haha. Have some Flowers though and I hope you can find some answers for your dd. I hope she is okay too. Not forgetting your DH very sorry for his loss so close to Xmas. I'm having a lot of bother with neighbours too and have been for 6 months now I feel your parents pain.

SorryPardonWhat · 23/12/2021 07:34

Your worries are parked and doing fine. I am mulling them all over for you. On the whole you seem to have a full and happy life and I'm glad you recognise that. I'm also impressed that you're talking to your DD about the phone messages, that you have that relationship. I'm not there yet, my DD is 13 but I hope we carry on talking like you are. That's all you can do really. Oh and make sure she knows NEVER to send him photos and that he can photograph everything she says.

Star anise. Don't forget that.

katmarie · 23/12/2021 08:46

I think the mental load at this time is so much higher and it amplifies worries so much more. I love mumsnet for being a place where someone else is willing to watch your worries for a bit though.

No advice here, but I hope you manage to have a lovely Christmas, and that your worries subside.

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