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Is buying the tickets for this event too much?

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Alarmset · 22/12/2021 19:32

I lost DH in the summer. As is often the case I've really found out who my friends are. The couple friends who I thought would be there through thick and thin, we'd done "everything" with for years, more or less faded away.

Another group of "acquaintances " through a hobby have been amazing, kept in touch through DH's illness and kept arranging to meet up (even in pairs during lockdown). They didn't do that "let me know if...." thing most people do, they made it happen. Have included me in loads of social stuff since he died.

This week people's plans have been disrupted as people drop out and events are cancelled, so we're all unexpectedly free tomorrow night and planning to go to a music event on the spur of the moment. £10 each for 5 people. I'd really like to say my treat, thank you for being so good to me this year.

Is that OTT or a nice thing to do?

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KirkstallAbbess · 22/12/2021 19:34

What a lovely thought! I don't think it's OTT, I think you sound kind and appreciative.

superram · 22/12/2021 19:38

Lovely idea, do it!

Terminallysleepdeprived · 22/12/2021 19:39

I am sorry for your loss. My separation from dd's dad showed me who my mates really were.

It sounds like a lovely gesture.

RosieGuacamosie · 22/12/2021 19:42

So sorry for your loss. A lovely thing to do and £10 a head is not so extravagant they’d feel uncomfortable.

stripetop · 22/12/2021 19:43

I'm sorry for your loss. I think it's a lovely gesture and you obviously mean a great deal to them.

Hellocatshome · 22/12/2021 19:45

That sounds fine, thats the sort of money where if someone offered to spend it on me I would think "aww how nice" rather than "omg I can't accept that"

Crunched · 22/12/2021 19:45

I think it's a lovely thing to do, and the appropriate time to do it at Christmas.
Sorry for the loss of DH.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 22/12/2021 19:49

A lovely gesture, generous but not embarrassingly so. Glad you've had some great friends to help you through this awful time. They are no longer acquaintances, you've found your tribe.

FawnFrenchieMum · 22/12/2021 19:51

A lovely gesture. As others have said, not so much that people will be embarrassed but lovely amount to just say thanks for being there.

OurChristmasMiracle · 22/12/2021 19:57

So long as you can afford it- absolutely and tell them it’s a little thank you for all of their support throughout!!

I’m sorry for your loss and I hope the Christmas period is gentle for you.

gogohm · 22/12/2021 20:00

I think it's a lovely gesture to offer, but don't be surprised if they refuse to accept if so buy everyone a drink

eightlivesdown · 22/12/2021 20:09

It's a nice gesture to show the people who were there when you needed them that you appreciate their support.

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Alarmset · 22/12/2021 20:33

Ok then, I shall thank you.

We're all going to do LFTs in the morning and then I'll book (after checking it's still on)

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