I have recently submitted a CSA case in order that my exDH finally pays some money towards supporting his DC.
He has literally just text me to tell me that because i have foolishly started this i am going to have to pay back approx 12k in child benefit and hahaha to me etc.
I receive the standard child benefit of £140 per month for 2 DC
When we separated 6 years ago we had a shared care agreement agreed in a minute of agreement (im in scotland) The agreement was vague just that we would share care . It started as 50/50 however the reality is that it was never really the case - more like 60/40 in my favour and then gradually increased more in my favour.
My younger son decided in Sept this year to cease contact with his father (long story but due to a physical assault and a catalogue of abusive behaviour that he disclosed). Prior to that he was seeing his dad approx 3 nights every second week.
My elder son still stays with his dad every second week for an average of 4 - 5 nights - he is over 16 and I think does this to keep the peace. His Dad can be coercive.
His Dad text him just before he sent me the text message asking to speak to him urgently - so I think has started something already or is trying to pressure DS1 to sign or agree something.
I cant speak to my exH as he is abusive - he has previously made veiled threats is any mention of support has been made. In the past 6 years he has not provided any support - eg as I receive the child benefit he believes this is enough to pay for every item they require, clothing , uniforms etc plus extra curricular things, school trips, duke of edinburgh, mobile phones etc - i am sure you get the picture.
i am really worried this could be true
I earn £35K a year - i dont know his salary when we were together it was around 45K i think.
does anyone know if this could be true? I am so worried, I scrape by as it is - though I appreciate my salary is decent.
I walked away with nothing from our marriage as to be honest i was scared of the repercussions , eg he has a 200k pension pot at that time which I didnt claim.
whereas he took everything , from cutlery out drawers to towels and bedsheets. i came home and the house had been cleared - this is the type of man who i am dealing with. He will stop at nothing and I am worried he is telling lies about our care arrangements ot even coorscing DS1 as we speak to move in with him permanently so in his eyes he doesnt pay a thing.
please help