Is getting a gift for someone who wouldn't expect it

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A nice thing to do, or not?

Someone who's been really good to me in a difficult year. I hadn't planned to get anything, but saw something they'd like. Just a token.

I certainly don't want to make them uncomfortable though?

Only one way to find out. I would.

It's a nice thing.

I've received unexpected gifts from time to time and often they're the ones I remember most as they were such a lovely surprise.

You sound very thoughtful and kind.

I can't see how it could be a negative in huge sense.

At the end of the day they aren't likely to actually say if they don't like it or don't want it, the thought and gesture is a nice one and being thought of is touching.

Sounds grumpy but I don't overly like getting gifts for the mostpart and often get several I can see the giver is really pleased with and thinks I will love, but really I don't at all. I don't like the waste but always feel really touched at the effort, and appreciate that. It's that they thought of you that means the world.

I just don't want them to feel awkward that they haven't reciprocated, or worse that they feel they need to rush out and get me something

I had a one-time gift from a colleague whom I'd really supported throughout the year. It was a very unexpected, but thoughtful gesture. She only did it one time. The gift was inexpensive but very well thought out.

I didn't reciprocate as I'm sure she wouldn't have wanted that.

I gave someone a token gift this year because she had been kind and supportive. I spent £5. I think I said to her just a little something to say ty.

She was surprised I dont think she was uncomfortable.

So I would say go for it.

I bought someone a one off gift this year and when I gave it I said its just because you've been so good to me this year and I really appreciate it. Maybe do the same then they know its not a new thing that you both are going to do each year.

Someone gave me an unexpected gift today. I wasn't expecting it and think it's a one off, but I'm touched and pleased with gift.

If you feel it's something you'd like to do, then do it

I did this for a brilliant friend the Christmas after my divorce. The gift tag said, “thank you for your support over the last few months” rather than “Merry Christmas”.

I’ve done this exact thing for a work friend this year, she’s been brilliant this year and I spotted something that I thought she’d like so I’ve popped it in the post.

Definitely do a tag saying thank you for everything - bet the receiver will be delighted!

OP, I did this exact thing this Christmas too. I received kindness and support from a place I really didn't expect to (not close friends but gone above and beyond) so as a token gesture, I sent a small present thanking the person for the continued support and wishing them a wonderful Christmas. They will know exactly what they have done for me and my small present really doesn't compare but I am hoping that it does represent that their help didn't go unnoticed and I am very grateful.