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so pissed of I need to vent

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Samcro · 22/12/2021 10:15

dd is an adult with a severe disability and lds. so she lives in a care home.
planned to have her home for christmas. just found out she can't due to a couple of people testing positive so the care home is now in lockdown.
I understand, but so fucked off.

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feelsobadfeltsogood · 22/12/2021 10:17

@Samcro

I'm so sorry to hear this is be upset too. Hopefully at the end of their lockdown you can do a Christmas mark 2 for her and hopefully the home will make it nice for their service users too.

Sending big hugs 🤗

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Samcro · 22/12/2021 10:20

she had christmas there last year and had a ball.
she will be fine.
just so wanted her home.

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Wrinklyeyes · 22/12/2021 10:23

Really sorry to hear that. Can you plan for an alternative celebration when you are able to have her home? It must be really disappointing, sorry.

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Samcro · 22/12/2021 10:25

it will be at least a couple of weeks as they go into lockdown for anything between 14 - 28 days.

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Wrinklyeyes · 22/12/2021 10:25

Chinese New Year?!

feelsobadfeltsogood · 22/12/2021 10:37

@Samcro
I really feel for you especially as she wasn't with you last year
Grandpa is in a residential home and I'm hoping to collect him for lunch but not counting my chickens! Although interestingly they have now stopped all visiting from yesterday until Christmas Day now - I know some families have kicked off but it's actually quite sensible thinking about it

oftenbaffled · 22/12/2021 10:39

Out of interest

Is she essentially imprisoned? Ie they would actually stop you from collecting her and taking her home if you said that worried about impact on her mental health?

olderthanilookapparently · 22/12/2021 10:39

That is really rubbish - I understand why you are gutted vent away.

Itsnearlyxmas · 22/12/2021 10:45

Oftenbaffled - op has said she was there last year and had a ball. Why would she tell lies just to risk spreading covid? She has also said she understands but just disappointed.

oftenbaffled · 22/12/2021 11:19

It was question

oftenbaffled · 22/12/2021 11:20

out of interest

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Samcro · 22/12/2021 14:52

she is not "imprisoned" just PHE have rules for care homes. I don't really understand it as everyone else seems to be able to go about their business. yet disabled people in care homes are treated differently.
we can't just insist on bringing her home.

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Cloudsarebright · 22/12/2021 19:28

I agree with @oftenbaffled. Way up the potential risk to the impact on your and her happiness. Especially if she’s been tested negative.

Billandben444 · 22/12/2021 19:38

But @Samcro would be bringing her home for her own benefit as she says her DD had a good time there last year. It's not a risk I'd want to take and would totally piss off the staff at the care home. I'm sorry OP, feel free to vent as much as you like, the timing is pants.

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Samcro · 23/12/2021 15:02

another day and new rules.......
she is now allowed to come home.
yay

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