What can I get ExH for Christmas from the DC?

[ImFree2doasiwant]

Hes so hard to buy for, I usually manage a few bits but this year I really haven't been browsing the shops so haven't come across anything. I only want to get something as the DC love giving, but they have no clue at all what to get him.

Things are not great between us and he has form for buying me wildly inappropriate things.

I've done mug, socks, t shirt, framed pic of kids in the last couple of years.

Dc1 said chocolate like they get me, but I know he doesn't really eat much chocolate or sweet stuff.

Hes got a million books he doesn't read. A hobby he never does (but buys stuff for). And I'm skint.

[quote ImFree2doasiwant]@worriedandannoyed thank you for understanding. It really isn't about him, but they love giving and will be giving his parents something so they would notice if they had nothing for him.[/quote]
Exactly. He knows I hate him, he probably hates me but takes the kids to get me presents too. We always buy each other something that historically we always did - which is a bit weird as we now don't get on. But we do our best for our kids

My friend used to let her little kids loose in poundland to buy relatives something small, entirely of their choosing. I think she did steer one of them clear from a packet of sanitary towels for their uncle though! I think it's quite a cute idea.

I steer DS in the direction of crisps/chilli sauce/beer for ex as I know he likes those. One year he got a glass that said "Dad's beer" on it I think. Ex also gets something for DS to give me so it's equal effort and DS loves to give us both something, he'd be upset if he didn't have anything to give.

What's the budget ?

@ImFree2doasiwant

Thank you. I'm not teaching them its wife work at all. When they're old enough, they can and will do it themselves. My mum takes them to choose something for me. I want them to have have more normal attitude to giving gifts and atm they love it.

This sounds really sensible. Let them come with you to choose as well. ExH got Spider-Man bubble bath one year because DC thought it was the best thing ever and was so excited to tell him all about it on Christmas morning even though I don't think he'd had a bath in years! It's about your DC, not your ex.