If you are in a great 'happy ever after' relationship was there a spark?

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When I met dh there was no spark. I thought he was nice and not bad looking but not my type at all. I was in no way attracted to him and I was seeing other people. But he was nice and I got to see that and got to know him slowly over the years. The more I got to know him I realised how perfect he was and I completely changed what I liked and found attractive. He was there for me at a pivotal in my life and I gave my head a wobble.

From the day we first got together I knew there was no doubt, just so easy and completely comfortable. Not some crazy movie style romance like I imagined.

Been together now 10 years, married 5 (we saved and planned for a while :D) currently putting out toddler to bed whilst he does the dishes. He's my best friend, I find him attractive and sex is great.

There is hope ladies! You don't need this movie spark.

Anyone else?

I kinda know what you mean.
I fancied DH on a night out and knew ‘of him’ but certainly wasn’t thinking he’d ever be the one! We’re 20 years on, 2 DC’s, a lovely life, we are such a great team, and sex is fabulous when we have it! Haha!!

My DH wasn’t really my type on paper (which was a good thing as I was 18 and loved a bad boy ). But there was a definite spark the second he was introduced.

It was so strong I can still feel it now… nothing like the feeling of fancying someone I’d had before.

We’ve been together 12 years and married 5. He’s still my best friend and I really hope we are together forever. I can’t imagine being without him.

I don’t think you need a spark though. One of my good friends really disliked her DH before they got to know each other and they seem blissfully happy now.

@Just10moreminutesplease

My DH wasn’t really my type on paper (which was a good thing as I was 18 and loved a bad boy ). But there was a definite spark the second he was introduced.

It was so strong I can still feel it now… nothing like the feeling of fancying someone I’d had before.

We’ve been together 12 years and married 5. He’s still my best friend and I really hope we are together forever. I can’t imagine being without him.

I don’t think you need a spark though. One of my good friends really disliked her DH before they got to know each other and they seem blissfully happy now.

This is the thing. Spark can happen and can be great, but it can also come later.

DH and I met when we were very young, 16/17, I had had a few bfs before then.
He was definitely not my type on paper, looks wise/personality wise and career goals wise.
I met up with him anyway after chatting online a few weeks (msn days) and from the moment we met he made me laugh non stop. Which people rarely did at that time as I was a moody, creative type, self absorbed teenager.
He still makes me laugh now and is an amazing dad who has been up for every night feed, every tough day, and does his share around the house.
Also, great sex and very giving partner right from the very start (this is weird to say as we were really young, but it honestly was great) and if I think about sex with him now I still get a funny feeling in my stomach after 13 years.

Yep us too. We were put on a project together and didn’t take much notice of each other. We were given a task to do together for two weeks and by the end of the two weeks we were smitten.

No huge spark but a deep long burn