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A thread where we can have a moan if we want

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Poetrypatty · 19/12/2021 18:49

I thought it might be useful. I don't know about you but I'm trying not to moan at home and to keep some kind of 'Christmas spirit' for the dcs benefit but it's all really rubbish isn't it, this unexpected turn of events with Omicron, and things getting cancelled. Have a little moan on this thread if it helps Smile

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Sparklingbrook · 19/12/2021 20:46

I remember my DSs having a tantrum over half an hour of homework let alone days and weeks of homeschooling. I am grateful I didn't have that worry it must be very difficult if your DC won't engage.

WasgijGods · 19/12/2021 20:46

Autistic child and Christmas. Can't contain their excitement so it's non stop noise and commotion and breaking things and meltdowns and 2+ hours to get to bed every night and it's only going to get worse as it gets closer. It's excitement and can't control their emotions but it's really, really, fucking hard to keep myself calm in order to help calm them down.

MrsTophamHat · 19/12/2021 20:50

I'm feeling rough after my booster yesterday. Was very cocky because I hadn't had any reaction earlier but this one has made me feel quite acheya and tired. I think my DH thinks that because i've been powering through today as we had things planned with the children, that i must be fine and just moaning a bit.

I think that he will possibly use his upcoming booster as an excuse to do fuck all for a few days

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Poetrypatty · 19/12/2021 20:53

WasgijGods You are amazing and could definitely do with some respite and something nice for yourself Brew

MrsTophamHat I would take to my bed and ask for a cuppa to be brought

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PositiveLife · 19/12/2021 20:55

I'm so so tired. Its just a never-ending tiredness and any tests I have seem to always come back normal.

I'm sick of the Ex-husband. This weekend was supposed to be my first child free weekend in 6 months and my partner was child free too. Then Ex-husband said his plans had changed and he was going out Friday.

I'm also struggling with the commercialism of Xmas at the moment. My aging parents are struggling on a state pension having worked hard in minimum wage jobs. The price rises are going to really affect them. Then there's people buying more and more stuff. I just feel a bit helpless about their situation (I'm hours away so it's difficult to give any practical help)

Tiaandchewy79 · 19/12/2021 20:58

Thankyou, I needed this!
My 21 year old son stressing me. Want to treat him like an adult, but he is sooooo lazy. Everything seems worse on a Sunday evening, even during festive period.

Theimpossiblegirl · 19/12/2021 21:04

It's just all a bit shit.
I'm doing my best to keep positive but it's not easy. It's good to admit I'm finding it tough

Thelnebriati · 19/12/2021 21:11

Just had the electric and gas bill I thought we had enough credit to see us through to spring but its all gone!

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Poetrypatty · 19/12/2021 21:37

It's really hard isn't it. Some people are struggling so much I know, and the cost of fuel is going to really kick in next year Sad I think the relentlessness is tiring.

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Sparklingbrook · 19/12/2021 21:42

DS lives alone in a one bedroom flat and has electricity only. £177 a month. Shock He seems a bit resigned to it but I am fed up on his behalf.

Bralessandfree · 19/12/2021 21:44

I've had my hair cut and I hate it. It's much shorter than I wanted and has aged me by 10 years. Every time I walk past the mirror I get reminded of how awful I look.

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Poetrypatty · 19/12/2021 22:05

That's a shocking amount for a one bed flat Sparklingbrook

Oh Bralessandfree so many of us have been there, that's miserable. I'm sure you look better than you think.

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UrbanMage · 19/12/2021 22:08

Today is my birthday and this morning I got a positive PCR result so am locked into my room. DH took DD to lightopia as they have had consistent negative tests. I feel fine other than the cough. Last year Bojo cancelled Christmas on my birthday and now this. Was also due to have my dad stay today - only seen him 3 times in the last 2 years.

Sparklingbrook · 19/12/2021 22:08

Yes @Poetrypatty, that was his first month bill, we'll see what the next one is, he's the first ever tenant in a new place so nothing to compare to.

UrbanMage · 19/12/2021 22:10

Also 110% caught it from being at work. I’m a teacher and the school haven’t been forcing kids into masks. As I’m diabetic I’ve been conscious of distance and wearing my mask but hey ho. Some of the kids are also point blank refusing to test.

yet another reason I’m quitting next term.

FoxgloveSummers · 19/12/2021 22:12

Thank for the birthday greetings! Happy birthday @UrbanMage despite everything, I hope you’re being given as many treats and bits of looking after as possible.

Backpats to all, for getting through this crap x

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Poetrypatty · 19/12/2021 22:16

UrbanMage Happy Birthday Cake Glad you're not feeling too bad with it but still, very hard being stuck in your room on your birthday. Hope you feel better soon.

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timanddaisy · 19/12/2021 22:26

@UrbanMage same. Teacher here too.

Tested positive yesterday. On 2 LFTs so no doubt really.

Utterly furious and devastated. Which might seem like an overreaction until I tell you that exactly the same thing happened this time last year.

Two Christmasses in a row, fucked.

And to top it off, DH is in a mood with me. Namely because I'm really bloody sad and won't paste a smile on and cheer up. Piss off, I'm not in the mood. Sad

bloodyhoodedeyes · 19/12/2021 22:27

@Theunamedcat let me know the fault code, car and model.. I may know a few things

Maplesyrup6734 · 19/12/2021 22:30

I struggle with this time of year anyway, covid aside due to reminders of various bereavements/estrangements.

I totally get what another poster wrote about acting like a red coat to keep things upbeat...another one here with an uptight husband who does nothing to lighten the atmosphere. Young dc so going through the motions of being jolly whilst feeling overwhelmed by arranging everything (most of it falls to me and I get overwhelmed really easily). Honestly not feeling in the Christmas spirit.

Perimenopause/menopause bringing me down (can't take HRT) probably responsible for my health concerns but no doubt I will have to face a battery of tests to rule other things in or out. Therapy has stopped for a while thanks to the good old Christmas period. Trying to keep dc entertained whilst they have coughs (not covid) in the grey damp weather. Teachers etc. most definitely need a rest as does dc but this means less rest/time for me and impacts my mental health. Haven't looked at my gratitude journal in ages...probably about time I did.

Sorry to hear others are struggling with various things too. No-one to moan to so thank you for starting this thread op.

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Poetrypatty · 19/12/2021 22:32

Utterly furious and devastated. Which might seem like an overreaction until I tell you that exactly the same thing happened this time last year

It doesn't seem an overreaction to me even for one year. Teachers have not been properly looked after in the workplace.

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jesusmaryjosephandtheweedonkey · 19/12/2021 22:32

I'm tired really tired.
Between covid
Having to change jobs and work longer hours
Dp being diagnosed with a life changing illness
And having to do everything and be happy and jolly all the time.... I'm just really, really tired

bloodyhoodedeyes · 19/12/2021 22:33

Also love a good moan, my dad died in October I'm facing the first Christmas, I'm hectic with work, my house is a mess, I'm not organised I have two teenagers, I'm peri menopausal and I really just keep bursting into tears, I really for the first time in my life feel like I actually can't cope. I now have dependants coming out of my ears, my DS my DH and now my mum and also staff of 6, everyone looks to me for the guidance, the time and the organisation and frankly I just want to go to sleep for a very long time and wake up when covid has fucked off

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Poetrypatty · 19/12/2021 22:33

Maplesyrup6734 so pleased it's helped in some small way. You could definitely do with time off and a rest.

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TravellingSpoon · 19/12/2021 22:38

Sending love to all of you having a hard time.

Mine is a pit of misery I have dug myself in and I cant seem to get out. Add to that DS who has severe ASD and goes into shut down over Christmas, couples with DD who wants to be excited. The whole house feels like a pressure cooker.

Am trying so hard not to think about the possibility of schools not opening in January as I thi k thr tiny amount of fragile resolve I have left will crack. WFH and going out on visits while trying to juggle homeschooling for DD will be tough and I just don't have it in me anymore.