My Christmas present from my mother.

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A radiator duster, some TU socks & a phone holder for my car. Our relationship is hanging on by a thread but she really has excelled herself this year with a total lack of thought.

I'm annoyed I got as upset as I did. What gift did your uncaring parent get for you?

I had a horrible childhood I went NC with my mother when my children were little and she is dead now.
Christmas was just another weapon for her to beat me with in terms of presents. Nothing she ever gave me was thoughtful or appropriate.
She was a knitter. She knitted a jumper for all of us at Christmas, the kind you knit on big needles and very colourful.
The knitted Christmas jumper I always received was nothing like the ones she knitted for my sisters.
Firstly it never fitted. The arms were always too short. I am average size.
It was never long enough. It was awful.
I ended up with a big pile of them in a wardobe that I could not give away or wear.
One year she knitted my husband a jumper - A 'Ganzy'. She used wool from another jumper her husband used to wear. The wool was old and had been washed and ironed a lot.
It was awful and my sisters knew what she had done because she told them. She said 'he didn't matter'.

LOL

I get nothing. At least you got something.

[quote Billandben444]@bluecampbell
Perhaps he doesn't buy his step-daughters' presents, perhaps it's their mum. Is yours the only one he has to get - is he just rubbish at buying gifts? 😢[/quote]
He does remember my brothers' birthdays, and bangs on about my stepsisters and what he's doing for them, but you're right, the reminder probably comes from my stepmother, their mother (he's not their father). She's been our stepmother for nearly twenty years now though so you'd think she'd try and remember. It's not the actual stuff, it's feeling like he cares enough to remember. I never forget either of their birthdays.

I am lucky though; I have the most wonderful, thoughtful and caring parents in law and I feel like their daughter much more than I feel like his; so it's not all bad.

Some of the posts on this thread are awful, to you

@Insertdeadcatsnamehere

My mother always asks what I want and then takes great pleasure in getting me something very slightly different, for example she asks for a link to the trainers I want then gets me the wrong colour and size and smirks at me as I open them. Not an issue with her using the internet or anything, she's just a bitch.

My mum does this too. So did my ex.

They both go to a lot of trouble to make sure i get what I didn't want. It's bizzare, and sad 😔

I'm struggling this year but I've resolved to not send my mum a present (she won't be sending me one). My father and I haven't exchanged gifts for decades.

@Anordinarymum

I had a horrible childhood I went NC with my mother when my children were little and she is dead now. Christmas was just another weapon for her to beat me with in terms of presents. Nothing she ever gave me was thoughtful or appropriate. She was a knitter. She knitted a jumper for all of us at Christmas, the kind you knit on big needles and very colourful. The knitted Christmas jumper I always received was nothing like the ones she knitted for my sisters. Firstly it never fitted. The arms were always too short. I am average size. It was never long enough. It was awful. I ended up with a big pile of them in a wardobe that I could not give away or wear. One year she knitted my husband a jumper - A 'Ganzy'. She used wool from another jumper her husband used to wear. The wool was old and had been washed and ironed a lot. It was awful and my sisters knew what she had done because she told them. She said 'he didn't matter'.

LOL

That is awful.

To spend so much time knitting a gansey sweater using manky yarn that you know won't fit is next-level spiteful.

I’ve bought DH a car phone holder! He asked for one and hasn’t asked for anything else so…

Radiator duster is a bit weird but socks are a usual Christmas present. My Dad hasn’t bought me anything for ten years, barely spoken to me in that time too tbf. No idea why, just cut me out so at least your Mum buys you something and speaks to you?