Men - can you be trusted?

[Chocolatebrownielover]

I'm starting to realise that I completely distrust all men due to bad experiences and past trauma. Now a seemingly lovely guy is making an advance on me, but I'm struggling with my anxiety to trust. Are there good men out there? Are there honest men who actually want to be in a partnership with someone? Or do all men lie, and cheat.

Men please let me know - can any of you be trusted? Help me!

I’m not a man, but yes, some men absolutely can be trusted.

It’s shit how so much of what happens is life is down to dumb luck. Some women have more than their (anyone’s ) fair share of sub-standard men. I do think the ‘shark cage’ theory holds a lot of water (no pun intended).

But the men in my life are lovely. My late DF, and my DH. Most of my exes were nice men. My DB, my FIL and BILs. My friends’ husbands and my husband’s friends. All good men - good fathers and good husbands.

There’s lots of good men out there.

And that’s why I’m usually one of the first to say ‘leave the bastard’.

Not because I’m a man-hater. In fact, it’s the exact opposite. Why on earth would you hang around accepting dregs from some feckless fuckwit, when you could have one of the good ones?

I am a man and I can be trusted.

I'm not a man, but clearly your question is ridiculous.
How can you generalise half the world's population ?

Of course there are men that can be trusted, just as there are men that can't. Equally just as there are women that can be trusted and women that can't. Then there are people that can be trusted with some things but not others.

The problem is that if they can’t be trusted they will still say they can.

My dh is reliable and trustworthy, but he still makes mistakes and stupid decisions. I don't think anyone is perfect but you should try not to generalise based on past experiences. Men are just people and there are definitely some good people out there.