Would you be happy with this new swimming lesson rule?

[OnlyFoolsnMothers]

Not sure if I’m wrong about this- dd 4 attends a swimming class on sundays, the school has just sent the new rules for the centre given corona virus, near on all are fine: masks, one way systems etc- but they have said parents can’t stay during lessons and must wait in the car/ car park. One issue is that sometimes my child needs the loo midway through a lesson (we always try before class), in which case I take her- and secondly I just don’t feel comfortable not being able to see her. Am I ott ?

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Surely though if you take her to the toilet directly before then she will manage 25 minute lesson?

OP explained that her daughter doesn’t always manage to go before a lesson but then needs it in the lesson. She’s 4, it happens.

I'd also hazard a guess that if your Dd has been to the loo just before the lesson then she's asking midway through because she fancies a break and basically because she can.

You have no idea what OPs daughter is like so it’s a very stupid comment,

Honestly can't recall ever having to take one to the toilet mid lesson.

Children are different...shock. Again stupid.

Also thinking all pools have toilets that are easily accessible from the pool and that the staff are organised like at your pool. At one pool my kids learnt to swim at, you had to go past the lockers and changing rooms to get to the toilets.

OP has concerns for her child and you seem very keen to tell her that her concerns aren’t valid. I don’t know any parent that would have been happy for their 4 year old to wonder off to the toilet themselves where members of the public are. It could depend upon the layout, but even then OP has other concerns. As her child is only 4, these are perfectly normal concerns to many, even if they’re not to you.

OP has concerns for her child and you seem very keen to tell her that her concerns aren’t valid. I don’t know any parent that would have been happy for their 4 year old to wonder off to the toilet themselves where members of the public are. It could depend upon the layout, but even then OP has other concerns. As her child is only 4, these are perfectly normal concerns to many, even if they’re not to you.

OP asked for opinions. As no one is in possession of any of the details you list so we can only give such based on our own experience. OP has got cross at people who have given an opinion that differs to her own. If she has deemed it unsafe already I don't know why she's posting at all. Remove child from those lessons but it might be hard at the moment finding another pool that doesn't have the same restrictions for the next while.

@liveforsummer

OP has concerns for her child and you seem very keen to tell her that her concerns aren’t valid. I don’t know any parent that would have been happy for their 4 year old to wonder off to the toilet themselves where members of the public are. It could depend upon the layout, but even then OP has other concerns. As her child is only 4, these are perfectly normal concerns to many, even if they’re not to you.

OP asked for opinions. As no one is in possession of any of the details you list so we can only give such based on our own experience. OP has got cross at people who have given an opinion that differs to her own. If she has deemed it unsafe already I don't know why she's posting at all. Remove child from those lessons but it might be hard at the moment finding another pool that doesn't have the same restrictions for the next while.

No Correction: OP has got cross at people who are implying my daughter maybe abnormal for possibly needing the loo on occasion in a pool. Difference of opinion I can handle, idiocracy I cannot.

And all those people whose young kids never needed the loo- it’s your children peeing in the pool

No one has suggested your daughter is abnormal but I suspect she'll probably surprise and manage just fine.

No one has suggested your daughter is abnormal but I suspect she'll probably surprise and manage just fine.

You have strongly implied it by telling us your children have never needed it and questioning why she can’t manage without going. SHES 4 ! And it can happen to adults to, there’s actually a biological reason why we can need to wee when we get in the pool.

And all those people whose young kids never needed the loo- it’s your children peeing in the pool

Ha, yes! Disgusting.

I haven't implied it at all. I genuinely think OP is underestimating her DD's ability to last 25 minutes in the circumstances- if she's been or tried directly before. I can assure you my DD's aren't one of them. They'll hike miles to a toilet rather than pee in the sea let alone pee in a pool. But yes only the opinions of those that agree matter otherwise there's a pile on. No worries. OP just pull your daughter out I don't see another option.

Whether the ops DD can manage to not need the loo or otherwise is irrelevant. I'd want to know what safeguarding procedures have been put in place for when a child does need the loo and the parent isn't there to take them.