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Wedding or baby?

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Wpeoruahryclabegtt · 17/12/2021 08:23

Nc as dates may be outing.

I have a friend getting married around September 25th. It looks like a gorgeous wedding and I really want to go. We are also desperate to start ttc for our second baby this month. What would the due date be? Around the 20th September.

I know it may not happen straight away, but we were also very lucky that DD did.

Would you wait a month and try for an October baby? It seems silly to not wait a month, but then a September baby would be lovely for Birthdays, not being near DD birthday and what if it then takes us ages and this would have been a lucky month for us?

What would you do?

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Wpeoruahryclabegtt · 17/12/2021 08:24

I'm not a bridesmaid or anything, just a normal wedding guest.

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Justmuddlingalong · 17/12/2021 08:26

I'd start trying. As you say, it might not happen straight away, but someone else's wedding, no matter how gorgeous it looks, wouldn't restrict my plans for conceiving. Good luck whatever you decide. 🤞

Elfonthesofa · 17/12/2021 08:28

I'd crack on with TTC.

You don't know if the wedding will actually happen when it's meant to with the way things are with Covid.

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M0rT · 17/12/2021 08:33

Start trying, at least of it takes a few months you won't be that disappointed as you'll be glad your going to make the wedding.
If you get pregnant the first time you'll be delighted your having another baby and able to console yourself that the wedding may well be moved to a time you can attend.

Jericha · 17/12/2021 08:40

I'd start with the TTC.

girlmom21 · 17/12/2021 08:45

You could conceive straight away and the baby could come early or late anyway, or it could take 12 months to conceive and you could miss out on some lovely opportunities in the meantime.

bucketsoflove · 17/12/2021 08:47

Live your own life

Ogwen · 17/12/2021 08:50

From your thread title I thought you were talking about your own wedding/financial planning. I wouldn’t give a second thought to anyone else’s wedding plans when TTC.

TriciaMcMillan · 17/12/2021 08:57

@Ogwen

From your thread title I thought you were talking about your own wedding/financial planning. I wouldn’t give a second thought to anyone else’s wedding plans when TTC.

This. Just crack on.

BHX3000 · 17/12/2021 08:57

Crack on. You could delay and then the baby is premature and you can't make it anyway. Or it's twins and you need a C-section at 37 weeks. Or you're simply too exhausted by that point to even consider attending a wedding.

Billyliarohdear · 17/12/2021 08:59

I'd ttc of course.

I thought you were going to say it was YOUR wedding!

midsomermurderess · 17/12/2021 11:13

Prioritise your own life. I certainly would, ahead of another person's day.

SleighbellsZ · 17/12/2021 11:19

I would prioritise my own life.
Get cracking.

I also thought it was between a wedding or a baby for you!

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 17/12/2021 11:21

I would also get on with it. It can take a while to conceive anyway. Good luck

Frazzlerock · 17/12/2021 11:27

Oh lordy, start TTC now. Baby timing is 100% out of your hands.

Our first took 2.5 years and was 2 weeks late
Our second took 11 months and was 3 days early
Our third took almost five years, after several missed miscarriages, and he came six weeks early. So yeah, just crack on!
Also, enjoy the wedding

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Wpeoruahryclabegtt · 17/12/2021 11:46

You have all made me feel waaaay better about ttc now thanks!

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