Would you walk home from the station alone at midnight?

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It's about 15 mins along a main road. Not particularly nice area, skirts the edge of a council estate and large construction site.

I do it about once a month, but have learned not to tell anyone for all the lectures I get!

I refuse to restrict my life because of the behaviour of (a few) others. A taxi is not always available and even if it were, it costs money and actually, I feel safer walking than I do in some mini cabs.

Am I really in that much of a minority?

Yeah no my husband isn't dictating what I do thanks 🙄

@justgivein

Don't care if my wife wanted to I wouldn't let her I'd pick her up everytime.In the past she's been knocked over from behind ,had a man jump out of some bushes and these incidents were first thing in the morning. Even if these hadn't happened it's still not happening..always good to have a male perspective.

If you want male perspective you can contribute to reversing the culture of casual aggression against women through your own behaviour and reaction to your male friends and colleagues' "jokes" and conduct and by challenging theirs . Also get over the idea that you get to "let" women, even your wife do anything.

Not really she's very independent. But takes a minute to get mugged and weeks to get over it.Even though we live in a good area alot of young men still wear hoods and with black masks.I don't care what you think .

So you don't care what your wife wants or what we think? No we don't need your perspective thanks.

@Peakedtoosoon

So you don't care what your wife wants or what we think? No we don't need your perspective thanks.

Yeah that's probably why men rarely post on this board.Also she asks me to pick her up and i ask her to.pick me up because older blokes feel threatened by men in hoods aswell.

@justgivein

Don't care if my wife wanted to I wouldn't let her I'd pick her up everytime.In the past she's been knocked over from behind ,had a man jump out of some bushes and these incidents were first thing in the morning. Even if these hadn't happened it's still not happening..always good to have a male perspective.

But you can be dragging kids out of bed at all hours to collect another adult! Ridiculous.

Probably not as my nearest station is twice that distance from my home.

If I had to though I wouldn't feel unsafe...the entire walk would be on well lit roads and it wouldn't even occur to me to worry about walking past the council estate en route.

Yeah I know getting them into car seats at an ungodly hour is really difficult. Did it many a time when kids younger.My wife's safety is what matters.

@justgivein

Yeah I know getting them into car seats at an ungodly hour is really difficult. Did it many a time when kids younger.My wife's safety is what matters.

I'd be furious if my husband did that to our kids! I'd refuse to get in the car to make a point my safety doesn't come before the kids wellbeing. Particularly not when the risks are so tiny. And my husband's inability to weigh those things up would drive me crackers.

Not particularly nice area, skirts the edge of a council estate and large construction site

You can walk by places 100% worse than a council estate.
Aye, I would walk home myself from the station at night.

I'd specifically tell DH not to get the kids up at that time and would hate to hang around at the station waiting. Walking so long as not predictable/regular is way safer than hanging around. I wouldn't walk home from a regular commute at that time but would from a random night out...

Don't care if my wife wanted to I wouldn't let her

Are there things she doesn’t ‘let’ you do?

@GutsInMay

Don't care if my wife wanted to I wouldn't let her

Are there things she doesn’t ‘let’ you do?

Yes.Why? Another walk I don't let her do is early to the station 20 mins when it's dark.Also at night after work i Insist on walking her home down the dark streets .She has a very heavy bag too aswell as a handbag which she keeps rocks in I help with carrying that too which she's grateful for.

I would if I were physically fit enough to move more quickly if I needed to.

I would never walk anywhere at midnight. I wouldn't walk anywhere in the dark if I'm honest.

The sad truth is its not safe.

I've been on the school run in my 'lazy' clothes no make up with my child (NOT THAT UT SHOULD EVEN MATTER ) and a wedding ring and still repeatedly bothered by a man. Both my child and I felt vvv uncomfortable.

@IsabelleSE19

I would - more scared of cabs than of walking alone. The Worboys effect.

Same here.. I don't trust that Uber etc drivers are properly vetted and I hate being alone in a car with them. Rather walk.

Yes. My resting bitch face would make any would-be-anything walk in the road to avoid me.

Definitely not I would try and get a taxi no matter what the cost.

The sad truth is its not safe.

That's not a truth. Statistically, it's very safe. It's safer than crossing the road, driving or being walked home by a male friend.

I would rather walk home quickly than wait around and then catch a cab.

I had the very worst experience some years ago when a man tried to drag me into his car, I was in my mid 40s, so fairly streetwise - it was just after 9.am and I was walking to the office, really very frightening, took me some time to get back to myself. Now nearly 60, live city centre, I walk, meet friends, go in pubs on my own etc, I bloody refuse to give up my independence.

I wouldn’t, if I absolutely had to id prob carry a can of deodrant uncapped in one hand at the very least

I usually feel much safer walking than in a taxi. I feel more in control (I can run/change direction/knock on a door) than being locked in a car with someone else deciding where to take me.

I'll happily admit that I would be more than OK with a man/ husband whatever walking me home or picking me up.
Being attacked and barely getting away did that for me.