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Do you contribute half to gifts your partner gets his friends for their birthday or Christmas (who you also know?)

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TwizzleB · 15/12/2021 20:34

Do you contribute half to gifts your partner gets his friends that he signs off as being from both off you on the gift, given he picks the gift and it’s £30 to £70 (who you also know but more acquaintance level?) assuming you’re not living together but have been dating for a few years

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Bubblty · 15/12/2021 20:44

No that would be weird

mindutopia · 15/12/2021 21:23

No definitely not for friends. We do often jointly pay for family gifts from our joint account. Dh would choose them and purchase. I don’t do gift buying for his side. But it’s definitely not something I’d even consider if we didn’t have joint finances.

Crinkle77 · 15/12/2021 22:24

I don't think I've known any partners getting presents for their mates. They don't usually bother do they apart from buying them a pint do they?

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GoodVibesHere · 15/12/2021 22:26

No, it wouldn't occur to me to do this

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 15/12/2021 22:29

I've also never had a partner who brought gifts for his mates.

Are you saying your partner buys his male friends £70 gifts for their birthdays or christmas? Because I think thats a bit strange and no, I wouldn't contribute.

I don't spend that much on my own mates - its a bunch of £8-£10 flowers from the supermarket, if anything.

whatnumber · 15/12/2021 22:37

No I wouldn't unless he is contributing half toward my gift giving to my friends and family!
Let him just write his name on it if it bothers him!

BadLad · 15/12/2021 22:40

My wife sorts out her family and friends.

I sort out my family. I don't do presents for friends.

M0rT · 15/12/2021 22:41

No, I'm married and we buy independentantly for birthdays/Christmas but will sign the others name if it's for family.
I don't even buy my friends presents any more as we usually do something together rather than buy presents.
My DH does have some friends he exchanges presents with but not usually expensive more things they know the other would like or find funny.

Ragwort · 15/12/2021 22:44

Certainly not if you are not living together. Technically we probably do as we have a shared bank account although in practice DH doesn't give any presents to his family/friends so the only recipients are my family and friends.

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TwizzleB · 15/12/2021 22:49

Thanks everyone. Now about if DP’s friend organises a birthday party at a hall to celebrate their birthday and invites us both? In that case, I feel like I should contribute and seems the nice thing to do but not really otherwise?

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ZenNudist · 15/12/2021 22:54

No you buy for your friends and family, he buys for his, even if you go to a party.

Bubblty · 15/12/2021 22:55

@TwizzleB

Nope, you're DP's guest. Like at a wedding. He should pay for his friend.

Bubblty · 15/12/2021 22:55

Stop trying to give away your money lol!

SallyMcNally · 15/12/2021 23:21

I think I disagree. If I was going to a wedding with DF I'd split the present cost with him and I think big hosted and paid for birthdays etc apply a similar logic. We are both enjoying the hospitality. If I was going as a plus one of someone I hadn't been seeing long I might not though.

Otherwise I sort my friends and family for birthday and Christmas and he sorts his. We tend to buy things like housewarming/new baby/host gifts from the joint account unless it is a friend the other one doesn't know at all.

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