Do you believe in luck?

[ThatchedPottage]

My husband and I are really unlucky people. Everything seems to go wrong for us, from the big stuff to the measly day to day rubbish. Sometimes I wonder if we’d married other people whether it would be this bad? We’re good people, we work hard and we try and have a positive outlook, but something always goes wrong.

Take today for example. We had just come back from having some really bad news, so we thought we’d take our son to a Burger King to play in their play area (please don’t judge, we can’t afford much and this was genuinely a treat). At the door we were told we’d have to show our Covid jab confirmation. Scanned mine, all good. My husbands wouldn’t scan. No reason why, checked it all, just wouldn’t work so couldn’t go inside. Now I KNOW this sounds really minor, but this is every single day. We’re struggling with loads of things; work, health, finances, finding somewhere to rent to live (I genuinely don’t know what we’re going to do in a few weeks), family issues, the list goes on. Then every day it’s the little jiggly things like this measly treat for our son, just always goes wrong. I am at genuine breaking point. It’s been like this for ages.

Are we just really unlucky? Are some people just dealt a rubbishy hand in life? I know some people will tell me to be grateful we could afford some chips in Burger King as others couldn’t and that would be something they just couldn’t afford full stop) and I know that’s true. It’s just after years of everything constantly going wrong, I just feel miserable.

But in a magical sense, but perspective is powerful. Life involves suffering, and it's not fair. Perspective however can help you give due weight to the not-suffering niceness and these can provide opportunities you might miss because of focusing on the hard bits.

"But" was a typo at the start, should have been "Not".

I try and be positive but it’s so hard when every day you feel like you wake up and boom! The oven isn’t working to cook porridge. Boom! The neighbours have complained the toddler is too noisy. Boom! Somethings wrong with the car and it’s every single day!

I know that probably lots of tiny things go right and we just don’t celebrate them. I guess I don’t celebrate every time I turn on my oven and it works (I do every time I start my car and it works as that thing has been dodgy for ages now) so maybe that’s the perspective? Have to be overjoyed every time my oven cooks porridge! 😂

I feel the same way OP. I feel like I'm never allowed to be happy for more than a short time. Terribly traumatic love life one heart shattering failure after another, health issues, miserable at work, lonely, anxious, frightened. You name it. Life feels like one long slog. You're not alone in your despair x

Yes I do. I have a friend who is dreadfully unlucky and another who is really lucky.
The lucky one tends to be in the right place at the right time so she does put effort into getting to the right place.

I used to feel unlucky. For a good few years. But then certain things started going right and, as I’ve got older, I’ve developed an attitude of “it will be ok in the end”. I do think the more “lucky” I feel, the more lucky I am. I don’t really believe in all that power of attraction stuff but I do think a positive mindset maybe makes you see the positives where others would see the negatives. Things do still go wrong for me sometimes, but I can brush it off a lot easier now.