This is very minor but I am fascinated by the outcomes. I have a good relationship with DH. We are pretty much 50:50 with household tasks and mental load. This hasn’t always been easy but we have got into some good patterns over the years. The one area that he is rubbish with is relationships with his family. I used to remind him to call, encourage him to set dates to meet up etc.... It annoyed me having to do this but I wanted him to have a good relationship with his family. I care for them but dont love spending time with them to be honest. They are very religious and can be quite intense. If we weren’t family we would never cross paths! However I felt I should nag DH for his own good!
Recently I have been busier due to work stuff. I am really looking forward to a quiet Christmas. Usually I would be encouraging DH to arrange things with his family (meet ups etc). I haven’t done it this year and no plans have made. It suits me because I get to chill at home.
Don’t really know what my point is here but I guess it’s a bit sad that DH doesn’t try with his family unless nagged? I don’t like nagging and now think it’s not my responsibility to manage his family relationships. I wonder if most people do things because they feel guilty or out of obligation?