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Leaving without him

39 replies

Coffeetree · 12/12/2021 14:57

Partner has been asking all autumn how much time I'd get off for a holiday. He really wanted us to take a proper going-abroad holiday together.

We arranged something for another European country, sun and sea, everything in place. We paid in halves.

I arranged a taxi to collect from my place at 3:00 today, to airport. He said "Great, I'll get to yours at 2ish".

So yeah, quarter to 3 I texted him, "Taxi here soon, hope to see you here".

He just left a rushed voice memo, "Oh no, 3:00? The soonest I can get there is 3:15"

I rearranged the taxi booking for 3:15 and the driver said that's the latest he would do an airport run for our flight time.

I'm livid. He hasn't even offered an apology or explanation. Not the best way to start a holiday. He's been flakey in a couple of occasions but this takes the cake.

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Coffeetree · 12/12/2021 15:00

When I say "partner" I mean we don't live together but in relationship for 2 years.

I didn't ask him what happened because I knew there'd be some bullshit about a friend needing help or something.

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magicstars · 12/12/2021 15:03

So will you miss the flight? Definitely go, but I'd be upset at his lack of planning & organisation. Really depends on what he's like usually though. If he's normally reliable & a good guy then Might there be a reasonable explanation?

MintJulia · 12/12/2021 15:04

Is he there yet?

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magicstars · 12/12/2021 15:05

If you have time then can you swing by his place in the taxi to collect him? Otherwise let him make his own way to the airport.

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Coffeetree · 12/12/2021 15:09

No I didn't even ask him where he is. I'm not going to risk missing the flight. The taxi will be here at 3:15 and I'll be getting in it with or without him.

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Coffeetree · 12/12/2021 15:11

I'm so upset.

I even lobbied for a UK-based trip but no he wanted us to have the sun and sea, fly abroad. Not that he twisted my arm exactly. But now this.

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ThisWormHasTurned · 12/12/2021 15:11

I would get in the taxi regardless. Let him ruin this for you and it’s sets a precedent for the future. If he can get to the airport in time, great. If not, he’s shown you who he truly is.

GrazingSheep · 12/12/2021 15:13

What time is the flight ?

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Coffeetree · 12/12/2021 15:13

18:00 and it takes 40 min to get to airport

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Coffeetree · 12/12/2021 15:15

I asked the taxi driver to wait. So fucking embarrassing

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PatriciaHolm · 12/12/2021 15:15

So you are going to arrive for a European flight 2 hours before departure? That sounds loads, honestly.

MalbecandToast · 12/12/2021 15:15

You are really cutting it fine! If there is any shred of traffic you are screwed. Go earlier and he can meet you at the airport - if he doesn't make it tough tits.

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Coffeetree · 12/12/2021 15:16

I'm giving him 5 min

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Coffeetree · 12/12/2021 15:16

I know it's bags of time but that's what we agreed

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Theremoresefulday · 12/12/2021 15:17

Some airports and airlines say you need to be there 2 hours before.

Just go.

He clearly doesn’t prioritise you. I’d be having a chat

Insidelaurashead · 12/12/2021 15:17

Id ring him now and see how long he's going to be, if too long and you can't get him on the way, tell him you'll have to see him at the airport

FlowerFlour · 12/12/2021 15:17

Go without him, then dump him when you get back.

I couldn't deal with someone stressing me out on what should be an exciting departure.

BronwenFrideswide · 12/12/2021 15:18

Just go, he'll have to make his own way there. Stop messing the taxi driver around.

Personally I would have told him at quarter to three that you would leave at the appointed time and if he wasn't there you'd see him at the airport if he made it in time.

BronwenFrideswide · 12/12/2021 15:21

It may sound like bags of time, it's not. Getting through security can take an age and there are likely to be other checks due to Covid, etc., depending on where you are flying to.

Campfirewood · 12/12/2021 15:21

I would hate this. Man children do my head in. He’s not just a little bit late either. I’d go. With covid you do need the full 2 hours at an airport.

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Coffeetree · 12/12/2021 15:23

He came running up at 15:17. We're currently in taxi.

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ThisWormHasTurned · 12/12/2021 15:25

Talk about by the skin of your teeth!

FilledSoda · 12/12/2021 15:27

I'd have been tempted to head to the airport anyway and let him make his own way.
I hope you catch your flight.

Stath · 12/12/2021 15:27

Has he apologised and explained why he was late and caused you stress?

YanTanTetheraPetheraPimp · 12/12/2021 15:29

I’d be effing furious, it would ruin the holiday for me.
My husband is never, ever on time. I simply give him a time up to an hour earlier than we need to leave now.
He thinks it’s funny, I think it’s pig ignorance.