Family dynamics

[profedemates]

Just out of curiosity starting this thread based on me attempting to do a secret Santa with only my blood siblings and that being considered bad. I’m curious to know about peoples family dynamics just to know how dysfunctional I am 😅

1. Do you discuss things with your family/siblings that your spouse does not know about ?

1. Do you consider your in laws/long terms partners as equal to your own blood siblings.

1. Do you consider your mother-in-law/father-in-law as your parents ?

1. Do you and your spouse/long term partner have a relationship with each other’s family independent of each other ?

No
Not really, I barely deal with them
Absolutely nope

And nope to the last one but that’s also language barrier issues.

You not dealing with them is that a choice ? Is there some bad blood ?

I talk to my spouse about everything, unless I’m bitching about him to my sister, or SIL.

I talk to all my in laws bar one, we meet up independent of our spouses, we are very close although I do not consider them equal to my blood siblings.

I talk to my parents in law, but I don’t consider them my parents, although they are nice enough we get on.

I am polite to them but leave my husband to it. Definitely his mental load. They’re people I wouldn’t necessarily like as friends and my only reason to talk with them is my husband.

A bit like neighbours, civil and I don’t wish them any evil but just not my best mates.

@profedemates

Just out of curiosity starting this thread based on me attempting to do a secret Santa with only my blood siblings and that being considered bad. I’m curious to know about peoples family dynamics just to know how dysfunctional I am 😅

1. Do you discuss things with your family/siblings that your spouse does not know about ?

1. Do you consider your in laws/long terms partners as equal to your own blood siblings.

1. Do you consider your mother-in-law/father-in-law as your parents ?

1. Do you and your spouse/long term partner have a relationship with each other’s family independent of each other ?

Yes, all of the time. No serious stuff that impacts on DH though.

Nope. They are his problem.

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No
Yes
No
Yes

I have a (wife of bil sort of) SIL who I’m very close to and bitch about our respective husbands and mil with.

We have been together 3 yrs and I would never discus personal things with anyone else, we have too many interconnecting friends, including my ex husbands friends.
My partners family are pleasant enough and I count them as friends, he seems to be similar with my family, certainly no barrier. So much better than my ex who hardly spoke to my friends or family