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november90 · 09/12/2021 22:55

So I know this might sound like nothing to many, but I am absolutely freaking out.
About 4 weeks ago my 4 and 1 year old had sickness bugs and I had a meltdown because my biggest life long phobia is sick. Anyway, we all made it out in one piece. On Sunday I was struck was an awful tummy bug, my youngest had diorehha this week and has been completely off his food and unsettled and my eldest has come home from school and hasn't wanted to eat anything, complaining of tummy ache and feeling sick and completely not himself. He went to bed early, I've just checked on him and he seemed fidgety and moaning. I am literally shaking through worry at the thought of him waking up and being sick. I am beyond worried. I feel sad, responsible, worried.... I am just having a massive meltdown because this is my big fear :(
Apparently his teacher was sent home today with a tummy bug and my neice sent home too as she was sick at school.
Just after a hand hold because I've exhausted all my friends.
I'm a single mum so don't have a partner to help!

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november90 · 09/12/2021 22:57

Omg what if he's got a different bug to what I had and I get poorly again too 😰😰😰

I think the pandemic and constant chat about illnesses is just getting to me. I feel like you can look left or right without being reminded about being poorly.

I sound pathetic I know.

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CelloYouveGotABass · 09/12/2021 23:11

Bless you OP, is there anything you can do to distract yourself?

Like you said, you made it through last time, you will make it through again, even if they are sick.

You can do this!

MellowMelly · 09/12/2021 23:14

My friend has a massive sick phobia and has somehow made it through to her kids now being 9 and 11 yrs old and many sickness bugs. She really has had to learn to stay calm and deal with it when it happens and not worry about 'if' it happens. It's taken a lot of practice and determination for her to be more 'okay' with sick but she realised she had to learn coping mechanisms as she started passing her fears onto the children.

Akire · 09/12/2021 23:15

Oh no, on positive you did it last time so you may have hated every second but you did it! You are not pathetic to have a dread phobia about it. It’s hardly the most favourite part of parenting at the best of times but if it makes skin scrawl must be awful.
Can you gather equipment together so if worse does happen you are ready deal with it and get cleaned up as quick as possible?

Miraloma · 09/12/2021 23:17

Holding your hand OP. I totally understand having a crippling phobia is so hard.

But someone once told me that worrying about something won't stop it from actually happening so try to focus on something else and how you will 100% deal with it should it happen.

Headspace do some great free practices about calming down a frantic mind.

Sending strength

Bluebuddha10 · 09/12/2021 23:18

I get this, I used to feel a little like you,.
Training your kids to be sick in a bucket makes cleaning up much more easier and more bearable. By the time my kids were about 4 they were quite used to using buckets!!
Theres nothing you can do, sick bugs are part of life I'm afraid . I would work on developing strategies to manage your anxiety and fear around this, you got through it before so you can do it . Its usually only really unpleasant for a couple of days so you can manage this, try not to overthink things and stay calm x

guiltynetter · 09/12/2021 23:19

@november90

Omg what if he's got a different bug to what I had and I get poorly again too 😰😰😰

I think the pandemic and constant chat about illnesses is just getting to me. I feel like you can look left or right without being reminded about being poorly.

I sound pathetic I know.

You're not pathetic at all I feel exactly the same way. Especially as I have young children like you. I'm not particularly bothered about covid (actually felt a bit of relief when we got it) but I absolutely dread my son going to nursery because he's getting ill every single week and passing it onto the rest of us. It's just so shit.

HollowTalk · 09/12/2021 23:20

@november90

Omg what if he's got a different bug to what I had and I get poorly again too 😰😰😰

I think the pandemic and constant chat about illnesses is just getting to me. I feel like you can look left or right without being reminded about being poorly.

I sound pathetic I know.

It's more likely that your child passed it on to the teacher! Everything will be alright, don't worry.

I know it's hard when it's late at night but in a couple of days everything will be fine.

OhFGSWhenDoesItStop · 10/12/2021 00:58

Anyway, we all made it out in one piece.
You will all get through it. As you showed yourself last time, when it comes to it, looking after your DC is the most important to you.

DH always takes the piss, but he will not help if the DC are vomiting, I have a system. And trained them from earl on to walk around with a plastic bowl! Plain foods for a few days!

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november90 · 10/12/2021 01:25

Thank you so much everyone, how kind of you all to rely and be so reassuring!
Everyone of you is absolutely right and I should definitely using this time more wisely like sleeping but I have such a nervous body tonight!
I just feel like if I can make it to morning then that's my goal. Maybe it's the panic of the shock during the night....

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thaegumathteth · 10/12/2021 01:26

You've got through it before and you'll get through it again IF it happens.

You don't sound pathetic, I know exactly how you're feeling and it's horrible.

One thing that I remind myself of is that a lot of my fear is fear of the fear of that makes sense? So I panic thinking how worried I'll be in X happens.

Also I try and remind myself that worrying and getting in a state now will only make things WORSE . Try and rest even if you can't sleep - maybe do some guided meditation?

I always have 'D&V survival pack' ready to go with bowls, towels, gloves, hand gel, bleach, Calpol melts in Etc. It helps me to feel prepared.

thaegumathteth · 10/12/2021 01:27

Sorry about all the typos - it's late!

QuestionableMouse · 10/12/2021 01:29

Things always feel worse in the night.

Line a bucket with some bin bags do you can just tie and chuck. Some towels on the floor and wipes to hand can't hurt either. It'll be okay.

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november90 · 10/12/2021 02:30

@QuestionableMouse yes there's something about the night which makes it all so much worse, I think I just feel even less in control!

@thaegumathteth hehe i actually did Thai today but for my car. I bought an emergency bucket and supplies to stay in the car but need to do it for the house too!

You're right, I am scared of how illl feel or cope... it's such an awful and very unproductive feeling :(

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november90 · 10/12/2021 08:01

Just been into him and there's sick everywhere. Omg. The poor boy!!!! He changed his pjs himself in the early hours and slept on top of his duvet. I feel so sad :(

Can someone give me a reality check.... I have tummy bug on Sunday but just D and not V. DD2 was ssick a tiny bit on Sunday and D on Tuesday. Is this most likely the same thing. So worried because I wasn't actually sick so so scared of feeling so poorly again!!!

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Akire · 10/12/2021 08:54

It’s unlikely all 3 of you caught a bug on Sunday and now on Thursday:Friday being I’ll with a totally different bug. Sometimes sickness bugs can take days to get out of your system. So you may just have been on the loo and not going to be ill again.

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november90 · 10/12/2021 08:59

I'm just panicking because there's a bug going round his class and now worrying it'll be a different one but my logical side is telling me that surely it's the same thing!

God anxiety is such an awful thing. I sound so selfish!

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thaegumathteth · 10/12/2021 09:10

A few years ago we caught an awful bug - I was sick once but otherwise Diarrhoea, dh just had diarrhoea, one kid was sick loads and the other was sick 3 times and otherwise fine. It took about 8 days to go through us all one by one.

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november90 · 10/12/2021 09:26

Thank you @thaegumathteth I needed to hear this! I know this is all my anxiety talking. I do feel so much better now ds1 has got it out of his system as I was so worried about him!

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thaegumathteth · 11/12/2021 00:00

How are things now OP?

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november90 · 12/12/2021 16:09

It seems to have settled down thank you @thaegumathteth ! DS1 seemed a bit better yesterday and more himself today although off his food still!
I'm still on edge incase I'm unwell again though and worried about my mum/family being poorly. I read online it can take a week 😱

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