Do men text/whatsapp message less than women

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So, I have various friends, male and female. Let me start by saying that my male friends are just that. They are just friends of varying closeness. They are work friends, the husbands in our couple friends, various random blokes I know from all sorts of places. Some are single, some are not. I am married. Happily so. My husband knows these men in varying degree. There is no weird shit in the conversations. I am getting this out there before people start up on some diatribe of I must fancy them or they me or whatever. None of that. So, my questions is, do male friends message less than female friends in your experience. I find my female friends will sometimes initiate a conversation online, sometimes I will. But with my male friends, it is always me starting. If I don't, there can be weeks going by with no contact. When I see them, they are really happy to see me, berate me for being out of touch etc and when I message them, they are fun and normal. Is it usual that my male friends don't initiate online chit chat as much as my female friends do?

Not necessarily; I don't think.. I'd say that anecdotally amongst my friends, the men are a lot more chatty, but it's probably just dependant on the person rather than their sex.

Do you mention that they never initiate conversation when they berate you? That'd be the only bit that bothered me, to be honest!

Yes

Women say 20,000 words a day to mens 4,000 I think

@TakeYourFinalPosition

Not necessarily; I don't think.. I'd say that anecdotally amongst my friends, the men are a lot more chatty, but it's probably just dependant on the person rather than their sex.

Do you mention that they never initiate conversation when they berate you? That'd be the only bit that bothered me, to be honest!

I don't mean berate as in really berate me. More just 'hey, long time no hear, not friends anymore huh?' kind of joking.

I don't really have any male friends I'd personally message other than in groups. However I do know that DH and his friends send each other pictures, memes, silly videos to each other almost every day, sometimes huge numbers back and forth. Whereas with my female friends it's more messaging to catch up and in between a few funny things or photos shared.

I think it depends if the man is bored. I get sent all manner of shit when my bf is bored.

Yes.

Dh messages his (male) friends more often than I do.
As a pp has said, they send silly memes, banter, jokes. Whereas I tend to have mostly proper convos.

IME yes, based on dh, my brother, my dad, stepdad, couple of close male friends.
Mind you, this is purely based on how much they message me maybe I’m learning something here!!
I text my girlfriends a lot, WhatsApp and text mainly. A few friends we just text back and forth.
Dh will send a text, receive one and be done.
Unless sport is on, he and my brother or a friend will be texting each other while a game or a race is on but other than that, not much else.

@LaurieFairyCake

Yes

Women say 20,000 words a day to mens 4,000 I think

That’s an outdated, disproven statistic. It was never true in the first place.

Later studies suggest ’Only two of the studies found women talked more than men, while 34 of them found men talked more than women, at least in some circumstances.’
www.bbc.com/future/article/20131112-do-women-talk-more-than-men

According to my DF a text doesn’t need a reply unless there is a question mark at the end.

@Riapia

According to my DF a text doesn’t need a reply unless there is a question mark at the end.

Oh I love this!!! I have asked my DH why my male buddies don't as a rule reply to my more random messages and he said the same thing! Although my DH will reply to everything almost to excess. I guess it is the nature of the relationship though. He is obviously more connected to me. I just thought they didn't find the things I said or sent them funny or interesting. If there is a question or obvious reason to reply, they do.But sometimes hours after they have read them. He says it is quite normal for men to just read something and not reply of no reply was needed.

I think it's more of a personality thing than a gender thing. I have one male friend who is a terrible correspondent and another male friend who WhatsApps/phones a few times a week (unprompted). And conversely my two closest female friends have the opposite behaviour to each other too.

Yes from my anecdotal evidence men generally only send messages when they have something to ask or answer rather than general chit chat. They also take longer to read and reply to messages.