Gift for Dad who is struggling

[Startagain51]

My lovely 80 year old Dad (an abuse survivor) is in bits about little Arther Labinjo-hughes. He very rarely talks about his childhood, but has been in tears a number of times - I'm assuming the coverage is triggering for him. (I know it is awful for everyone).

I thought it might help to donate to some kind of children's charity in his name, as a christmas gift? Any ideas would be welcome.

Hi OP, just bumping this one for you in the hope that someone will be able to help.

The donation in his anem is a lovely idea, but as an adult CSA survivor and parent the one thing that has meant the most to me is knowing I managed to not replicate my parents behaviour, and do an ok job of raising my own kids.
Write him a letter about what a lovely person and good parent he is, and how much you love him. Try to think of an example of something positive he did. He's in despair about the state of the world right now. remind him he did a good thing for his own children and that was the one thing he had any control over.

Thel's suggestion is a fantastic idea. Bless your Dad.

A letter would be lovely. How about a photo album/book of happy times as a family with captions.
I did that for my nan one year and she absolutely loved it. First time I saw her cry- I was 25! Happy tears though

That's a really lovely and caring idea for your poor Dad.

Perhaps NSPCC or if there are any local children's charities near you?

Your dad has clearly done a great job in raising you and stopping the cycle.

Thank you so much, what a lovely idea. Actually made me cry.

This is why I love MN. Fantastic idea @Thelnebriati

@Startagain51 Mumsnet don't do tissues so here are some and unmumsnetty hugs.

@Startagain51,

Bless your dad. I'm a 65yr old mum who's an abuse survivor and this caused me to well up. My youngest daughter works in Child Protection/MH due to me. She wants to protect them all. She called me breaking her heart.
Give my regards to him please.
💐❤