Has anyone overcome or worked on a fear of failure?

[TheArgentineFanjo]

It really stops me from doing things I think. Has anyone worked on this?

Yes.

Mine mostly stemmed from never really ‘failing’ and therefore feeling I couldn’t, ever.

Getting a bit older has helped. And mostly just putting myself in situations where I was more likely to fail, but the world not ending. Then next time it just isn’t as scary.

Yes, but it took a really lousy year of being made redundant and my husband walking out to make me realise that I could 'fail' but the world didn't end and I could pick myself up and survive.

Now working on teaching my daughter a better level of resilience than I had, as she is showing signs of heading down the perfectionist/don't try something if there's a chance she could fail route, and I want to save her the issues that I went through....

I suffer from this and analysing it I think it came from my dad. If I came second in a race he’d ask why not first, consistently through my child hood that kind of situation. What I’ve done is recognise that’s where it most likely come from and told myself it isn’t true. I’m not saying it’s the same for you but something to consider, where that feeling comes from can help you make a plan out of it.

Mortified wow that sounds like a tough year! I’m so sorry. I’m glad you’re in a better place now.

That’s interesting Phoenix I don’t think I have anything as clear-cut as that but it’s an idea to think about.

Yes thanks, rough at the time but the only way was up!!

I would suggest starting small with 'fails' that don't matter. E.g., decide to mop the floors or read 2 chapters of a book, then make peace with 'failing' to meet the plans and realise that the world doesn't end.