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Should I cancel the Christmas party?

58 replies

Youngatheart00 · 08/12/2021 10:22

About 40 of us are due to get together next Friday night.

Other departments are cancelling their parties but we’ve had no official guidance.

I am really torn about what to do - any advice?!

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SirSamuelVimes · 08/12/2021 15:03

*about

Cyrilgoggin · 08/12/2021 15:04

I'm not risk averse, but I probably wouldn't go to a party next Friday. I want to ensure I'm able to spend this Xmas with family, so will be careful about what I do in the next couple of weeks. I suspect others may feel the same. I'd very happily go out to a post Xmas party though!

FabriqueBelgique · 08/12/2021 15:06

Does no one else think a party is a bad idea at the moment?

With Omnicron spreading quickly, possibly further restrictions being hinted at and Christmas a few weeks away..?

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SirSamuelVimes · 08/12/2021 15:07

@Cyrilgoggin

I'm not risk averse, but I probably wouldn't go to a party next Friday. I want to ensure I'm able to spend this Xmas with family, so will be careful about what I do in the next couple of weeks. I suspect others may feel the same. I'd very happily go out to a post Xmas party though!
I would argue you are somewhat risk averse. Pretty much the whole company is going on our Xmas night out next Fri - it's entirely personal choice, we have all chosen to go. Only one person isn't and she's undergoing cancer treatment.
drpet49 · 08/12/2021 15:12

* No! No one is being forced to go. If people don't want to they don't need to.*

^This

emmathedilemma · 08/12/2021 15:12

One of our offices had a Xmas party last Friday and as far as I know there hasn't been a Covid outbreak as a result. The other office is next Friday and so far 10 out of 60 people have cancelled in the last few days!

Cyrilgoggin · 08/12/2021 15:13

SirSamuelVimes you are right, in this case I would be risk averse. I'm not normally but I didn't make that clear. In this case I would be but only because I wouldn't want to jeopardise Xmas with my family. If it was this Friday I would go. I know so many people with covid (not particularly ill, but tested positive) that I wouldn't want to take the chance in the 10 days before Xmas.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 08/12/2021 17:06

@FabriqueBelgique

Does no one else think a party is a bad idea at the moment?

With Omnicron spreading quickly, possibly further restrictions being hinted at and Christmas a few weeks away..?

When will it be a good idea? It's not going anywhere. People have missed so much now.
Thunderpunt · 08/12/2021 17:12

@Youngatheart00 please don't cancel unless all 40 guests pull out. We have a small restaurant and have already lost a number of bookings, and all this talk of plan B and Omicron is putting the fear of god into people. This kind of thing is the final nail in the coffin for many in the hospitality business.
And if you do have a reduction in numbers - please advise the venue as far in advance as you can so they don't have food/drink waste and can staff accordingly

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Youngatheart00 · 08/12/2021 18:36

@Thunderpunt you’re totally right. The way that people are treating hospitality venues is shameful. One of the reasons I want to resolve this 10 days ahead is to be fair to the venue especially as we are due to be having a 3 course meal.

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JalfreziAtChristmas · 08/12/2021 19:02

Just make sure that people know that unlike normal(sadly), there will be literally no judgment or upset about anyone who chooses not to join in. People need to be told that, or they will feel they have to come. Family Christmases have got to come first.

SirSamuelVimes · 08/12/2021 19:05

[quote Youngatheart00]@Thunderpunt you’re totally right. The way that people are treating hospitality venues is shameful. One of the reasons I want to resolve this 10 days ahead is to be fair to the venue especially as we are due to be having a 3 course meal.[/quote]
Honestly, the only way to be fair to the venue at this stage is to pay them in the event of cancellation. It's not like by cancelling a week ahead you'll give them the chance to book someone else in - no-one is going to be looking to book a large party in for a three course meal at this stage.

prynaithda21 · 08/12/2021 20:19

Yes cancel. I think you are being kind to give the venue some notice.

SirSamuelVimes · 08/12/2021 20:25

@prynaithda21

Yes cancel. I think you are being kind to give the venue some notice.
Here's 9 days notice that you're going to go bankrupt and have no jobs, merry Christmas.

Yeah, really fucking kind.

MyDcAreMarvel · 08/12/2021 21:23

@SirSamuelVimes no people don’t have a choice to get the bus to work or to shop where there are no delivery’s or they can’t afford the minimum spend. Have some awareness of the world around you!

SirSamuelVimes · 08/12/2021 22:00

Me have awareness?! People on this thread are fine to put a while sector of jobs in the shit!

JalfreziAtChristmas · 08/12/2021 22:15

@SirSamuelVimes

Me have awareness?! People on this thread are fine to put a while sector of jobs in the shit!
Are you saying people should go to Christmas parties and risk their family celebrations and possibly their own lives and the lives of the ones they love so that restaurants do not close down?
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Youngatheart00 · 08/12/2021 22:15

With all due respect, my intentions are never to “put a whole sector of jobs in the shit”

I’m talking about one Christmas meal, on one lunchtime, balancing the interests of our staff and their families, our business, and the restaurant. No need to be dramatic.

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OhRexy · 08/12/2021 22:32

@SirSamuelVimes

Me have awareness?! People on this thread are fine to put a while sector of jobs in the shit!
Don't be fucking ridiculous. Individuals are not fucking over the hospitality industry, the government is. Let's be clear on that.

It's awful what is happening to lots of people right now but don't put the guilt on people just trying to do the right think and make sure they can keep well and see their families over Christmas. It's not on and you're going to lose people's support if you and others behave that way. Target your anger at those not offering financial protection.

Shoemadlady · 08/12/2021 22:35

Cancel it. It's the morally right thing to do.

SirSamuelVimes · 09/12/2021 08:33

I'm not saying you should go. I'm saying if you cancel, you should PAY.

Twilight7777 · 09/12/2021 08:40

As long as it’s a cheese and wine party I think you’ll be ok 😆

Thunderpunt · 10/12/2021 18:17

@Youngatheart00 interested to know what you did in the end?

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Youngatheart00 · 10/12/2021 21:29

I’ve cancelled it 😞 no other option really

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SirSamuelVimes · 10/12/2021 22:28

I hope you are still paying the venue.