Aibu to be disappointed by DH' birthday presents.

[JakeyRolling]

He's bought me Adele's latest album and a page a day diary.

I hate Adele (listened to a couple of songs in his presence) and I've had a Filofax for over 10 years (albeit kept in my work bag).

Imho did get me chocolates and a. Harry Potter thing that I like but I just feel disappointed and feel ungrateful for feeing that way.

Do you reckon he got them at Tesco, after realising he'd forgotten?

I like to point at things, and say, " oh, that's on my list! I'd love that as a gift".
It seems pushy, but it works.
Some fellas need really clear direction.

It would irritate me to get music full stop unless I'd specifically asked. Music is a personal thing.

Wrap them up and give him them for Christmas as he obviously wants them himself. Waste not want not and all that.

My birthday is coming up this week and I have been saying things like you better go all out. Lol but not saying an actual gift.

I wouldn't be impressed with an Adele album either but the diary sounds nice. And I like Harry Potter as well.

@MakeMineAdoubleChocolate

My birthday is coming up this week and I have been saying things like you better go all out. Lol but not saying an actual gift.

I wouldn't be impressed with an Adele album either but the diary sounds nice. And I like Harry Potter as well.

Problem is I don't need a diary. I have a Filofax

Al I want is go to my favourite museum and the asda two for £7 Christmas tub chocolates. Heroes and celebrations will do the trick.

Gifts for adults are difficult. I usually give my husband and parents a list these days. You aren't unreasonable to feel a bit disappointed but don't dwell on it.

Sorry, maybe he didn't see the filofax. Try and enjoy being together for your birthday rather than the gifts and give the Adele album to someone else or exchange it for an album you do like.

I give DH a list and tell him he's not allowed to deviate from it

What's usual for you both? Does he usually choose something nice or do you make suggestions? My DH and I have long since stopped exchanging gifts, despite being married over 33 years we never get it right ... in the past I've had earrings for pierced ears (I don't have pierced ears!), a Beatles CD - I never listen to music , lingerie about six sizes too small and totally inappropriate. And I am sure my gifts to DH were just as unwanted .... much better to agree not to exchange gifts or to make specific suggestions.

My DH is extremely generous, he wouldn't bat an eyelid if I placed an Amazon order right now for whatever I wanted ... we have a shared account, he earns over five times what I earn but has never, ever commented on what I spend. But we are both just no good at choosing gifts .

Did you tell him what you would like?

My DH was always rubbish when choosing things he'd think I'd like. Then we changed things because it wasn't working.

Now I let him know 2 or 3 things a few weeks before. No one is a mind reader and it's only on the telly where people get exactly the right thing with no prior communication.

Set your partnership up for a nice easy future life, not a series of minor disappointment and failures.

Sounds like he’d forgotten and just picked them up at a petrol station….! Unless there’s a backstory where there’s a lot of other things going on in your lives or he’s very short of money I’d be hurt too. Sounds like no thought has gone into it.