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Can't loose any of my baby weight :(

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mumtobee22 · 01/12/2021 12:50

Before I got pregnant I was 8 stone and extremely thin. I was a size 6. Since given birth 3 Months ago I am now 11 stone and have gone up to a size 12. None of my clothes fit anymore. I can't seem to loose any weight or find motivation. I'm constantly hungry and want to eat. I have such a sweet tooth and I love sweet things. When I feel hungry I snack on chocolate and things like that. I'm trying to cut back my calories but it's absolutely impossible when I'm constantly hungry. I can't seem to find any exercise that I enjoy doing and I'm lazy as hell. I miss my old weight so much. How do I loose the baby weight I've tried and it doesn't seem to be coming off

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ThatParent · 01/12/2021 13:02

You gave birth 3 months ago.
You're exhausted and you're recovering.
Give yourself time.
It's not a competition.
It's a third of the time you took to grow the baby.
When you're tired, you want to eat crap. It's normal.

Try to be kind to yourself, drink lots of water and eat vaguely sensibly.

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 01/12/2021 13:05

I just bought new clothes tbh....😂

Sexnotgender · 01/12/2021 13:09

Please be kind to yourself. It’s so hard when what you see in the mirror is so different to how you looked before. I had a baby 8 months ago and it took about 6 months for all the weight to shift.

My advice. Drink plenty of water, if you’re craving sweet stuff try and delay 30 minutes and see if the craving goes away. Sleep deprivation screws with your hunger!

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PurpleDaisies · 01/12/2021 13:09

You were almost underweight before. I think you should cut yourself some slack.
Focus on looking after yourself as best you can. That probably includes eating well but it can also include chocolate. You’ve had a lot going on.

UntilYourNextHairBrainedScheme · 01/12/2021 13:11

I agree with the poster above, but the hunger is actually probably blood sugar levels crashing down after spiking when you eat a lot of sugary foods. Obviously you know that chocolate isn't something to eat when you're hungry partly for that reason and partly because of course it doesn't contain everything you need by any stretch of the imagination.

Your constant hunger is probably actually sleep deprivation messing up your metabolism combined with blood sugar levels crashing.

Be kind to yourself, but if your clothes not fitting is getting you down buy some new ones if you can afford to!

If its actually your self image then its worth addressing a healthier diet and seeing whether you can find a way to get better sleep at night - splitting nights better with your partner or perhaps asking someone you trust (your parents perhaps) whether they would be able to look after the baby while you have a daytime sleep, or going to stay a few nights with your parents if you're single, expressing milk if necessary and having your parents do one or two night wakings.

Its early days though, seriously.

RubertRoo · 01/12/2021 13:13

Honestly - don't worry and enjoy your baby.
Pre child I was 9.5 stone but 6 foot tall so a tiny size 6. I put on 5 stone through pregnancy and after!
I even used to walk 4-6 miles a day as baby would only sleep in a pram whilst walking. I think breastfeeding just made me eat everything.
It took me just over 3 years to lose the weight but it just came off naturally in the end and I'm back down to about 10.5 stone and a much healthier size 10. It will come off just take time!

CapBarnacles · 01/12/2021 13:23

I completely understand, it was the same for me. You're allowed to want to look and feel your best even with a new baby. It is a long slow process though, or at least healthy weight loss should be a long slow process. If your body is hungry all the time it probably needs the extra energy right now. The first year with a baby is quite hard work, you need to nourish and fuel your body rather than run a calorie deficit. Could you try to accept that this is what your body needs right now and re-evaluate when the baby is six months old?

Highlanders372 · 01/12/2021 13:34

3 months post partum is incredibly early days. I was similar weights to you and it only started coming off when DS was 18 months plus. Looking after a newborn takes so much energy especially if you're breastfeeding. Try and forget it for now, it'll happen eventually but nows really not the time to worry about it. You'll find those sweet cravings will start to decrease. They did with me.

BlairWaldorfLovesShopping · 01/12/2021 13:38

I think you need to be patient, everyone is different. With my first baby I worked out, ate low carb, tried loads of things (not too soon after the birth, but when a few months had passed). Nothing worked to shift the extra few pounds I wanted to lose - until my baby was 9 months old, when it all just fell off like magic. I wasn't doing anything to try and lose it at that point; I can only conclude it was all hormones. Please try and not think about it too much for the next few months and just see what happens :)

(Currently 36 weeks with DC2 and due to be a bridesmaid in May, so I really hope I can take my own advice rather than stressing about fitting into a dress!)

PurpleBerryDancer · 01/12/2021 14:06

@PurpleDaisies

You were almost underweight before. I think you should cut yourself some slack. Focus on looking after yourself as best you can. That probably includes eating well but it can also include chocolate. You’ve had a lot going on.

How do you know she was almost underweight? At that weight and size clothing I'd be well within my BMI range. So might OP. Not the most helpful comment by you

PurpleDaisies · 01/12/2021 14:08

The op has posted other threads.

PurpleDaisies · 01/12/2021 14:10

Pressed post by accident.

The op says in her first post she was extremely thin. That’s a bit of a clue to her being on the lower end of the scale.

BleuJay · 01/12/2021 14:13

With my first I lost any baby weight by putting on Mr Motivator’s video - Bums, legs and tums, when I put him down to sleep.

If I recall they were only ten or 15 minute segments, so I could easily fit them in a few times a day and it made me feel energised.

When I had my daughter I found it came off naturally as my son was almost three so I had my hands full with him rushing around!

Try to swap sugary crap for more healthy foodstuffs and keep by the old adage of if you don’t buy it you can’t eat it!

SummerHouse · 01/12/2021 14:15

The constant hunger is maybe caused by the sugar rather than a solution to it. It's also the sugar lows potentially affecting your mood. Absolutely do be kind to yourself, no pressure and no rush. But I think to feel better you need to follow something like the blood sugar diet.

FrankiesKnuckle · 01/12/2021 14:18

I've just got back to Pre baby weight. 9st. My child is 8 years old!
I've been around 10 stone for the rest of that time.
My body shape has changed so whilst I'm at my previous weight I look different. Im healthy, I don't deny myself anything but I am sticking to 16:8 and exercise.
What doesn't help are media figures and "celebs" looking nigh on emaciated 2 weeks post birth. Most of these people will have other people to do all of the mundane stuff like cleaning, washing, shopping....

Cut yourself some slack, you are a new mum to a healthy baby. Enjoy being present in the present.

ComeAllYeFaithful · 01/12/2021 14:22

Real foods satiate you. It sounds like you’re in a rut of eating crap and then craving more crap to keep you going. That’s how junk food works.

You need to eat real food, but very hard with a baby x

Borracha · 01/12/2021 14:23

I didn’t lose any baby weight after DC1 was born - in fact, I gained. When I was around 4 months post partum, I spoke to my GP and had my thyroid checked. It turned out my thyroid was under active (most likely triggered by pregnancy) and once medicated, the weight fell off really quickly. Could this be worth investigating?

picklemewalnuts · 01/12/2021 14:24

Stop thinking about eating less- it's self defeating. Focus on eating more healthy foods. Make every meal high in protein, and sit and eat it.

When your body realises that nutritious satisfying food will be delivered at regular intervals, it will stop demanding 'quick fix' snacks.

Be kind to yourself, eat well, get plenty of rest. Your body has done amazing things, reward it!

carnaval · 01/12/2021 15:02

Hi OP!
My baby is now 18 months old so I know how you are feeling.
I'm back to being a size 6 as I was before pregnancy. But when she was 3 months old I was also hungry all the time and tired. And for the first time in my life I craved sugar (I think my body needed some quick energy boost). I was a size 10 then. The thing I did not do was to weight myself because I was afraid of not enjoying my baby/maternity leave that much. I did not want that extra pressure.

I would say that I started loosing weight by the time my baby was 6 months old and then at 12 months old baby started going to nursery, I was breastfeeding her much less. So I was less hungry and my dress size went down.

I'm a size 6 again, I am not as toned as I used to be and it took this long for me to get my energy back! I've just started exercising again.

Enjoy your baby! Xxx

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