Withdrew for my own sanity. PIL always hostile towards me. Made me feel like a bystander at my own wedding. There's a clear demarcation between ‘family’ and others. If you're family (blood relation) you're golden, if not you're dismissed as an interloper who's feelings, emotions, contributions count for nothing. Think the sort of people who deliberately crop you out of family photos when taking them or doctor them afterwards. I know I'm no oil painting but still! Pervy FIL let himself into house ( didn't know he had a key) when was I was alone with newborn. I freaked and hid in bathroom ( only internal door with lock) hears him rummaging through drawers/cupboards in bedroom. My under wear missing afterwards. Heard story about another female (distant relation) saying something about him - roundly dismissed by MIL - which set my spidey senses on fire. Avoided him like the plague ever since. Difficult because DH thinks he's a saint. IMO FIL is a misogynistic bore, loves the sound of his own voice, narcissist and questionable morals. MIL is a piece of work who would cheerfully throw me under a bus; amongst other things ( eg. badmouthing me to people she knew had personal/professional relationships with me) she has form for physically blocking me from collecting our DC from her house, attempting to take DC ‘ for a day out’ from garden without telling me - and that was before I went NC. She did worse, which was when I called time.
Woman of limited intellect except when it comes to cresting drama. And I even feel guilty writing that cause, y’know The Sisterhood.
Yet my DH is a delight and I wouldn't swap him. Always had my back and respects my decision to go NC with his parents. Life is much easier without them in it. Still, I feel sad that this is the situation. No reason for them to hate me the way they do. I'm lucky my family and friends (who’ve seen how they've behaved towards me) are supportive.
Sorry, that was waaaay to long, but cathartic.
I'm going to have to name change now, aren't I?